qweretyuiopas
Master Don Juan
Hmm, didnt even know we had rep points till now, I see I havent been repped. O well, how long has this been here? Is it a recent thing? How do you know how many people have? Like how u know who had the least and most?
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Go to the Members List and click the heading for reputation. It doesn't give you numbers, but it has everyone in order.qweretyuiopas said:Hmm, didnt even know we had rep points till now, I see I havent been repped. O well, how long has this been here? Is it a recent thing? How do you know how many people have? Like how u know who had the least and most?
People actually use reputation points?manuva said:We have reputation points?
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
STR8UP said:Famous soon enough huh?
I would like to thank my fellow Sosuavers, the chick who flaked on me after handing me her number that BROUGHT me to Sosuave, and lastly The Academy....
I didn't even realize those green bars were there till someone commented on how only two people have two green bars, and I realized i was one of them.
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Karma gave me bad rep and called me a man.Falcon said:reputation to me seems broken, or at least half of it. You rarely ever see anyone with bad rep (red bars). Even most spammers who eventually get banned have green bars. I mean what's the point if the rep system doesn't identify disruptive posters?
azanon said:I have mine enabled, but I'm not a huge fan of that sort of thing. Why? Because, I'm a little dubious of any system that inherently will have the effect of encouraging someone to post what others simply want to hear rather than what they actually think.
If it were me and the board allowed it, I'd rig the system to award a point whether negative or positive was clicked. That way, the system would be identifying posts that mattered or had some sort of impact over those that were, basically, forgettable. The few that gave me a neg hit in the past probably thought they insulted or "got at" me. What they actually did was tell me that I had an impact on them and I took it as a compliment. This gets into the whole "the opposite of love is not hate" truth..... I digress....
As for folks who are just completely out of line, that's what the moderators are for.
.... not if I was a moderator. I addressed this scenario, did I not? ;-)ketostix said:That's a pretty good point but the only problem is someone like IQQi would have 2 bars lol.
I think a genuine negative rep that couldn't be viewed as trolling is going to be pretty rare..... not impossible, but pretty rare. Can you even think of one regular here who you think most people would consider a negative rep poster, but isn't trolling?And I think you can have negative rep, so that's the same concept but I'm not sure. I never thought to neg someone. Unless they're a known troll poster, I don't see the point.
Well there's some regular posters who are basically trolls but maybe one bar is as slow as you can go on SS, or maybe guys on here don't bother negging and only add positive points when they see fit. I'd think if people were both negging troll posters much on here and it's possible to have a negative rep than someone like say iqqi would be in the red. I'm not really sure how it works though.azanon said:.... not if I was a moderator. I addressed this scenario, did I not? ;-)
I think a genuine negative rep that couldn't be viewed as trolling is going to be pretty rare..... not impossible, but pretty rare. Can you even think of one regular here who you think most people would consider a negative rep poster, but isn't trolling?
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.ketostix said:Uh I guess it would go over my head when both of your 2 post were right after mine and the first one even had arrows pointing up at my post. Then in the second one you end it with "I was talking about Karma", whatever that was referring to. Yeah, it's as clear as mud :crazy:.
Touche' Sir.lookyoung said:Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.
Good point and taken into consideration, I should focus my efforts else where. Although there actually is something for someone to take away within some of our replies to some of the women posters on here.lookyoung said:Ketostix your a reputable poster why are you even paying attention to iqqi. Why is anyone on this forum pay attention to her? We have a lot of brothers that need help and they get no help on there threads. Yet when Iqqi posts a thread we get 300 AFC's willing to help her out. Stop the madness. Stop replying to her threads. She is a woman in a MANS FORUM. Don't take her seriously.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.