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[Trumpetman]

So lately I've heard people have been calling me a pervert. I guess its becuase I joke around sexually a lot but I think now some of the girls that I'm interested in might be a little scared of me now. Should I stop with the jokes and stuff and just cool off or what? THanks

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Trumpetman
So lately I've heard people have been calling me a pervert. I guess its becuase I joke around sexually a lot but I think now some of the girls that I'm interested in might be a little scared of me now. Should I stop with the jokes and stuff and just cool off or what? THanks

no and next time someone calls u a pervert ask why, n if they say ur talk then tell them ur not a woman and ur not scared to express ur sexuality.


but first dude if ur talkin like some sick **** like vulgar then u might wanna change that up.

 

[Balanced]

Yes, if you talk about sex jokes all the time people assume you are uncomfortable with sex etc. aka. needy

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by Balanced
Yes, if you talk about sex jokes all the time people assume you are uncomfortable with sex etc. aka. needy

um no people wud think ur too comfortable with sex, as compared to their immature selves, needy would be if u ask for sex, talking about it has nothing to do with it.

 

[maphive]

Hugeguypimpin needs to shut up because he has no idea what he's talking about.

You are being called a pervert because you aren't calibrating your sexuality around women as well as you should. If you played the sex jokes and dirty looks + sexual gestures properly chicks would be aroused and think you're a sexual guy. If you overdo the **** jokes and come off as an idiot trying to get a rise off of sex they'll call you a pervert.

 

[huge_guy_pimpin]

Originally posted by maphive
Hugeguypimpin needs to shut up because he has no idea what he's talking about.

You are being called a pervert because you aren't calibrating your sexuality around women as well as you should. If you played the sex jokes and dirty looks + sexual gestures properly chicks would be aroused and think you're a sexual guy. If you overdo the **** jokes and come off as an idiot trying to get a rise off of sex they'll call you a pervert.

hey u got confidence issue, u cant even adress me on the f_ckin internet ! sad bro !

 

[Vincent]

Originally posted by Trumpetman
So lately I've heard people have been calling me a pervert. I guess its becuase I joke around sexually a lot but I think now some of the girls that I'm interested in might be a little scared of me now. Should I stop with the jokes and stuff and just cool off or what? THanks

No, just ignore it. It'll go away.

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

maphive i agree with huge guy pimpin not with you. Talking about sex just shows you are comfterable with it. Althought because other people are not, it kind of freaks them out so they call him a pervert. Maybe Trumpetman should stop the jokes as they obviously freak people out.

 

[maphive]

Originally posted by check_mate_kid_uk
maphive i agree with huge guy pimpin not with you. Talking about sex just shows you are comfterable with it. Althought because other people are not, it kind of freaks them out so they call him a pervert. Maybe Trumpetman should stop the jokes as they obviously freak people out.

Talking about sex doesn't necessarily mean you are comfortable with it.

I've had nice talks about sex with chicks. I've talked to one girl about our favorite positions and fun shit you can do with things like ice cubes. And you know what, she didn't think I was a pervert, of course not.

The problem is displaying overt sexuality when it is either incongruent with your frame or when their frame is so completely different than yours that they are not currently thinking about issues of sexuality at all.

You know what man, it is a problem when it freaks other people out, you aren't vibing with the people you are around when you genuinely freak them out. Vibing is much more important to getting laid or getting friends than any stupid routines and bullshit you'll read on this site about being comfortable with sex talk or whatever the hell you're doing right now.

It's issues of congruency and frame, not issues with chicks being uncomfortable with sex. If you segue into it properly through building rapport or properly play it off as C&F then they won't see you as a pervert.

 

[rappermas]

Trumpetman:

You're not delivering them well. People think that you're forcing it. Just talk about it. Be funny about it. Don't do it with the specific intent of getting a girl wet, because then it becomes forced.

huge_guy_pimpin:

What? If you talk about sex and act all needy pestering a girl with sexual jokes all day, of course she'll think you're a pervert.

maphive:

Right on the money.

 

[UnorthodoxKnight]

At the moment I make a point never to shy away from sex talk, but I don't really dwell on it.

There's one girl in a college class I go to who likes to say "bite me" when I tease her, so I say something like "don't beg like that, its not cool" making her seem to be the uncomfortable one.

She's a real intense flirt, verging on rudeness oftentimes so I go a bit heavier on her.

Best way is to think of it as a game and always keep a twinkle in your eye. They love it