"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"Reputation" Explanation?

PDubb75

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Hopefully this is the right place for this.

Can anyone explain how the "reputation" works on here?

Specifically:
1) Green and Grey dots under the reputations you've received? Does grey mean negative?
2) How the amount of green dots changes under your username in a post?
3) different shades of green?
4) What this even does for you?
5) Any other importance I could be missing?

I appreciate it. Been curious for a while now.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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This forum doesn't really place much value in the rep system. Just use your common sense when following advice of the members here.
 

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reputation is when your bosses b**ch wife tells you no when you ask her for gas money, and then asks you if you gonna drive someplace, and you tell her to f**k off.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Drdeee said:
reputation is when your bosses b**ch wife tells you no when you ask her for gas money, and then asks you if you gonna drive someplace, and you tell her to f**k off.
Do you need a hug, dude?
 

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I heard once you reach 7 jewels you unlock the super special secret forum.
 

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question: Is there any way for Allen to allow us to see all posts that we had that were repped? I can only get a limited number and I like to see which posts actually helped someone

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comic_relief said:
question: Is there any way for Allen to allow us to see all posts that we had that were repped? I can only get a limited number and I like to see which posts actually helped someone

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That was the reason I was curious. I like seeing that I helped someone with something. Plus, it re-assures me that what I've learned is sticking. But then my curiosity grew with these green dots. And then even moreso when I saw grey dots. And... I still have no idea what the dark and light grey ones are.
 

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PDubb75 said:
That was the reason I was curious. I like seeing that I helped someone with something. Plus, it re-assures me that what I've learned is sticking. But then my curiosity grew with these green dots. And then even moreso when I saw grey dots. And... I still have no idea what the dark and light grey ones are.
Click on the User CP on upper left. It should lead you to the threads that got repped. If you click on it, it leads you straight to your specific post.

I think the gray ones are when they disabled their rep system.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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squirrels said:
The more blips you have under your name, the more you would benefit from shutting off the computer and getting a life. ;)
ditto

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