"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Repeated Flake

phil2015

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Hi guys,

Got a little problem with a HB6/7 I've been dating about a month.

Everything seems to be going okay, but problem is she has a tendancy to flake and cancel dates on me. It has happened about 5-6 times in last 2 weeks. Range of excuses, child's I'll, has to babysit somewhere, snow, feel I'll etc

Problem is, she seems interested, texts me a lit, fcks on demand, calls me a lot etc and I'm wondering how can a girl Exhibiting high IL, simultaneously cancel/flake so much??

Two extremely contrasting behavioural streaks....

I believe I should go off what she does, rather than says, and whilst I'm not feeling anything untoward, I do feel my gut is telling me something is not legit.

Any advice, no matter how brutal is welcome.

Regards

Phil
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Building_and_Loan

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5-6 times in the last two weeks? That's an awful lot of times. First month of dating you should only be seeing each like once or twice a week anyway.
 

Harry Wilmington

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She's got a kid? Ewwww - been there, done that, single moms are ALWAYS having something come up with the kid. Whether or not it's true or an excuse, the outcome is the same: lots of last minute flakes, and not generally worth your time.
 

Mr_Maximus

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You have over extended yourself by giving her way too many chances bro.

maybe her interest level is dropping.

forget about her, until she contacts you or just next her. That's poor behavior.
 

sylvester the cat

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Unlike singletons, this is the nature of dating a woman with a child. The child will always come first (unless she's a future Jeremy Kyle contestant).
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cloudtopsun2100

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just next her, she has no right to be acting like a princess when her value is so low
 

Peña

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Never let no woman repeatedly flake. Don't be no fool.
 

VladPatton

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Why are you waiting around for her? She's got a kid whose problems will always come before you 100% of the time. Single mothers are for rich beta providers who want an instant family. Tell her to call you when she wants to bang. Till then, seek other females....single ones!
 

salinechow

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This is a simple arithmetic

HB6+child(at 21?)-you= your happiness.
 

Albatross953

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You need to finish the second half of "pump and dump".
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Zarky

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phil2015 said:
Got a little problem with a HB6/7 I've been dating about a month.
Your problem actually seems to be that there's a lack of other women you're currently f*cking. Fix that and this "problem" will fix itself.
 

SAYNO

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Albatross953 said:
You need to finish the second half of "pump and dump".
LMFAO!!!
 
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