"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Remember: Beautiful Women are Annoying

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They hired a new super hot female bartender at my local tavern (I dated the last super hot girl there but she could never beat out my last girlfriend).

However, after they introduced her, for some reason I got annoyed by her. I saw some guy she was dating and saw how every man there was at her beck and call. You should have seen how nice the really handsome guys her age act. Me however, I would intentionally rotate my bar stool so I didn't have to look at her. Just another spoiled Princess (this one from Lithuania) I thought.

The funny part is, last night (only the third time she saw me, all in the past 7 days) she came over and had 20 questions for me, was super interested, and it turns out she is moving into the apartment complex where I live.

I realized that being annoyed by beautiful women is probably the best attitude to have, especially when you first meet them. And don't pretend to be annoyed, actually be annoyed.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Its an obious tactic to look disinterested or to have a cold approach, but i don't get it, if you are genuinely annoyed, you would not use it as a tactic to get her.

It's like a catch 21. I've been with many nice looking girls that i just can't stand but they seem to keep approaching me even though i really just don't wanna have anything to do with them.
Heck, even thinking about some of them makes me sick. I'd rather have a 7/10 that is sweet and cool to hang with than with an annoying b1tch 8-9/10 that i wanna punch in the face all day.
 

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I was genuinely annoyed until she started throwing herself at me.

This goes under the "Treat her like your bratty sister" rule.
 

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...I realized that being annoyed by beautiful women is probably the best attitude to have, especially when you first meet them. And don't pretend to be annoyed, actually be annoyed.
I don't think you have to be annoyed. It's not her fault all those men were kissing her ass, all that matters is that you don't.

These are the types of girls I approach by saying: "I thought I'd come over and talk to you, since you look a little shy and lonely". Knowing full well that she was getting loads of attention.
...I'd rather have a 7/10 that is sweet and cool to hang with than with an annoying b1tch 8-9/10 that i wanna punch in the face all day.
I always laugh when I hear people say something like this, don't you realise how stupid this sounds?

First you make the assumption that 7/10s are all "sweet and cool" to hang around with and 8s or 9s are all "annoying".

And second, you're basically saying that you'd rather not be with a woman who is an 8 or 9 and is "sweet and cool".

If anything, in my experience the opposite is true.
 
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I didn't act annoyed so much as I secretly was, and that seemed to be something she preferred to having her butt kissed. She is not from the US so that is a bonus.
You make the assumption that 7/10s are all "sweet and cool" to hang around with and 8s or 9s are all "annoying". And second, you're basically saying that you'd rather not be with a woman who is an 8 or 9 and is "sweet and cool".
"I want a woman who is not only beautiful, but kind and caring like an ugly woman."
- Drew Carey
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I realized that being annoyed by beautiful women is probably the best attitude to have, especially when you first meet them. And don't pretend to be annoyed, actually be annoyed.
Being annoyed covertly and/or not engaging is a way to determine IL. If you are ignoring and she is trying to engage, she is interested in knowing who you are. Beware the female that feels as if she needs to prove herself to an uninterested male. This screams self esteem issues. The healthy female will realize that he's not interested, so why waste my time? Yes, I understand that this sucks. All I am saying is that, for a female that responds positively to negging (which is what this is), you need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
 

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...Beware the female that feels as if she needs to prove herself to an uninterested male. This screams self esteem issues.
I don't think it's about proving themselves, it's more about curiosity. If men are giving their undivided attention and power away to a women who hasn't shown any actual value, then I don't blame her for assuming those men are low status.

There's a part of us that realises you have to work for the best things in life.
...for a female that responds positively to negging (which is what this is), you need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
Not kissing a woman's ass isn't negging.
 

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All I am saying is that, for a female that responds positively to negging (which is what this is), you need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
For a female that responds negatively to negging, you also need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
 

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For a female that responds negatively to negging, you also need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
ha ha, so always screen!
 

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Being annoyed covertly and/or not engaging is a way to determine IL. If you are ignoring and she is trying to engage, she is interested in knowing who you are. Beware the female that feels as if she needs to prove herself to an uninterested male. This screams self esteem issues. The healthy female will realize that he's not interested, so why waste my time? Yes, I understand that this sucks. All I am saying is that, for a female that responds positively to negging (which is what this is), you need to screen extra for deep seated issues.
it's the opposite, a woman with a healthy self-esteem can handle a neg, a woman with low self esteem will act like you killed her family by teasing her, a narcissist will do that too.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The difficulty sometimes lies in discerning low versus high self esteem in a chick.

If you can sort for low versus high self esteem early on (pick high self esteem, you'll thank me later), you'll make an enormous reduction in the amount of drama you have to deal with.
 

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it's the opposite, a woman with a healthy self-esteem can handle a neg, a woman with low self esteem will act like you killed her family by teasing her, a narcissist will do that too.
A narcissist maybe so self-involved that they won't even "hear" you...
 
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