She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dude... I wrote this years ago (when I was the Matrix: Reloaded) that I am not even sure if I even remember what I wrote or if I even still believe in what I wrote, as I was very misogynstic at the time. However, what I will do is this... I will reread what I wrote and then get back to you. Sounds good?Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
The Antichrist_Star: Great post....
I have a few things to ask though...
1) When u mention that we should keep dating to a minimum... why do u say this? I find that going on dates puts excitement into the relationship....?
2) What did your current gf do to "earn" the right to be yor girlfriend?
3) About opening doors etc for women rather than letting them do it themselves... well this isnt about her not being able to be indepentent, its just a sign of being a gentleman, and i think SHOULD be done with ur gf/wife etc...... but NOT with some random date, thats correct.
4) What about your girl FRIENDS? how do you treat them?
5) How would u describe the way u think/feel about your current gf? i mean... u said that we musnt see women as these gentle beautifull things... so what do you see your GF as? because myself and MY gf have a "perfect" relationship as far as i'm concered, but i DO treat her like "gold" and i DO take her on alot of dates etc.
6) Unless there si something that i am forgetting to commetn on etc... i 100% agree with the rest of your post and thank you for your knowledgeable post.
A reply would be appreciated
Laterz...
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.