You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dude... I wrote this years ago (when I was the Matrix: Reloaded) that I am not even sure if I even remember what I wrote or if I even still believe in what I wrote, as I was very misogynstic at the time. However, what I will do is this... I will reread what I wrote and then get back to you. Sounds good?Originally posted by ~ªêQµïTª$~
The Antichrist_Star: Great post....
I have a few things to ask though...
1) When u mention that we should keep dating to a minimum... why do u say this? I find that going on dates puts excitement into the relationship....?
2) What did your current gf do to "earn" the right to be yor girlfriend?
3) About opening doors etc for women rather than letting them do it themselves... well this isnt about her not being able to be indepentent, its just a sign of being a gentleman, and i think SHOULD be done with ur gf/wife etc...... but NOT with some random date, thats correct.
4) What about your girl FRIENDS? how do you treat them?
5) How would u describe the way u think/feel about your current gf? i mean... u said that we musnt see women as these gentle beautifull things... so what do you see your GF as? because myself and MY gf have a "perfect" relationship as far as i'm concered, but i DO treat her like "gold" and i DO take her on alot of dates etc.
6) Unless there si something that i am forgetting to commetn on etc... i 100% agree with the rest of your post and thank you for your knowledgeable post.
A reply would be appreciated
Laterz...
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.