"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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shaunuk

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When I hear this situation, all I hear is BAGGAGE...

- her family won't let her do sh1t
- by moving in with him her family will disown her
- and to fix this fvcking mess (or maybe in any case...) she wants him to convert...

- in principle by the girl even seeing him is causing distance between her and her family

fvcks sake, he doesn't need all this bullsh1t. This relationship is and will continue to cause problems for him.

If I was him I'd just end it....unneeded drama and requests that he CANNOT bend to. If she loved him enough to move in with him, she should love him enough to love him with his current religion.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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In the last decade religious, ethnic and cultural differences have become highly contested issues in many European countries. Particularly, the presence of Islam as a “migrating” religion has been on the political and academic agenda for some time now. Conflicts have evolved around issues such as wearing Muslim headscarves in public institutions (Göle 2002; Berghahn 2004), building mosques and minarets in European town centers and so called traditional violence against women, as for example female circumcision and arranged or forced marriage (Phillips 2007). Some of these conflicting issues did not only trigger heated debates but also have been leading to a wide range of policy action across European countries as for instance bans of headscarves in public institutions (France, Turkey, Germany) (Saharso 2003), changes of laws for abroad marriage (Denmark, UK), amendments of penal laws to punish genital cutting (Austria, Germany) and municipal norms of the length of minarets.
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Commandante

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If I were your friend I would ask the father of my GF the following question:

"Let´s imagine you are in my age and you love a Christian girl like I love your daughter. Would you convert for her?"

But to tell the truth I don´t think that this relationship has a future. I wouldn´t like to have a GF who loves her culture and her family more than me.
 

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My impression is that your friend belongs to a branch of Christianity that takes the Bible rather literally? Many members of my family are in Christian-Atheist marriages, which isn't that big of a deal depending on what kind of Christian you are. As for Islam, I'm unsure of the rules regarding marriage.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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londonzen

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handle said:
My impression is that your friend belongs to a branch of Christianity that takes the Bible rather literally? Many members of my family are in Christian-Atheist marriages, which isn't that big of a deal depending on what kind of Christian you are. As for Islam, I'm unsure of the rules regarding marriage.

muslim men can marry jews christians and muslims. not atheist/hindu/other religions
muslim women can only marry muslim men

muslims/jews/christians all worship the same god just diffrent prophets

as for your friend slickas i think hes almost there did you say he aint drinking no more either?

any way i think you should say your peace and leave him too it as too be honest she is putting alot on the line aswell.
 
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