"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Relationship Troubles

Jon55

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I've been in a good relationship for many months. But there's this new-ish girl in our group of friends who is just stunningly beautiful. She's single, closer to my age range, and we get along very well/have similar interests. I'm pretty sure she likes me too, but knows I'm in a relationship.

But again, Im already in a good relationship. There are a lot of people who like that we're in a relationship together too. And Im still happy in it, but I cant help but think about this other girl. I just dont want to make any stupid moves that Ill regret later somehow. Thoughts?


EDIT: Please don't think I have some shrine of this other girl or anything like that. Its more of a instinctive "new challenge" kinda thing I guess. Which sounds kind of stupid because I already have something so good, and now part of me wants to throw it away because of the new "challenge".
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Jon55

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Any input is welcome.
 

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Jon55 said:
I've been in a good relationship for many months. But there's this new-ish girl in our group of friends who is just stunningly beautiful. She's single, closer to my age range, and we get along very well/have similar interests. I'm pretty sure she likes me too, but knows I'm in a relationship.

But again, Im already in a good relationship. There are a lot of people who like that we're in a relationship together too. And Im still happy in it, but I cant help but think about this other girl. I just dont want to make any stupid moves that Ill regret later somehow. Thoughts?

The title of this thread is kind of misleading.


It's called "Relationship Troubles",but when you read it,you say you're happy in your relationship,and you say the relationship is good.



I think the title should be "Maturity Issues".


The thing you must understand is THERE WILL ALWAYS BE a girl who's hotter,smarter,more fun,nicer,etc.


ALWAYS.



Even if you get yourself a "10",the familiarity of having her around constantly will make other "new" women (of even lesser beauty) seem more attractive to you.


It never ends. Even if you dropped your current girl and got with this new one,at some point there'll be another "new hot girl".



I don't know how old you are,but whatever your age is,it would be wise to learn this now.
 

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Sit down with the new girl, and have an open and adult discussion about the issue. Just ask her if she'd be willing to stop wearing makeup or brushing her teeth. Also suggest that she wear unflattering clothing, and pack on a few extra pounds.

If she's mature and reasonable, and if she cares about your current relationship, I'm sure she'd be happy to help.
 

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Caliente Ice said:
Sit down with the new girl, and have an open and adult discussion about the issue. Just ask her if she'd be willing to stop wearing makeup or brushing her teeth. Also suggest that she wear unflattering clothing, and pack on a few extra pounds.

If she's mature and reasonable, and if she cares about your current relationship, I'm sure she'd be happy to help.
Hahaha- "Hey, look, stop being so hot".

Igetit! said:
The thing you must understand is THERE WILL ALWAYS BE a girl who's hotter,smarter,more fun,nicer,etc.


ALWAYS.



Even if you get yourself a "10",the familiarity of having her around constantly will make other "new" women (of even lesser beauty) seem more attractive to you.


It never ends. Even if you dropped your current girl and got with this new one,at some point there'll be another "new hot girl".



I don't know how old you are,but whatever your age is,it would be wise to learn this now.

And thank you Igetit!. I understand there's a certain level of maturity (or lack thereof) here that I need to learn, but I haven't spoken anything about this to anyone other than you guys here. It's just something that's been rattling my brain and I had to get it off my chest, so I figured better to do it here than elsewhere in my life.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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