"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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relationship problem!!!, help guys...

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ok guys,
I was going out with my ex for about 8 months when I found out that her and her ex before me had been e-mailing each other saying how they still had feelings for each other(the guy is my mate as well), so as a result we split up, shortly after her and the other guy got together but it didn't work and they split up after a few weeks. She told me that she had never got over me and that she was only trying to make feelings for him that she didn't have and that she still liked me. We decided that we would give it a while before we decided to date each other again as the other guy is very hurt and is finding it very dificult to move on and also to make sure both our feelings are genuine for each other. The problem I am writing about is that the girl is very sensitive and she found out that I had pulled a few girls lately(she had my hotmail password and found an e-mail from one of the girls I had pulled), she got mad and said that I had ruined any chance that we had together and that since she read the e-mail she has been physically sick all week and that she had no choice but to try and get over me...

what should I do guys...
as it stands we were both single and I feel i had every right to pull
but I know where she is coming from as well
what should I say to her???
what smart answer can I give her to get her to wise up and relaise it was only a pull

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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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She had her chance with you, but she wanted to go fool around with her ex, so now let her suffer what she asked for. It was her choice, she had her oportunity. Dont give a **** about her.
 
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Originally posted by Trance
She had her chance with you, but she wanted to go fool around with her ex, so now let her suffer what she asked for. It was her choice, she had her oportunity. Dont give a **** about her.
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What a fvcking *****. She dumps you for her ex, then when that doesn't work out she magically never had feelings for him and now wants you back? She's trying to manipulate you, and she's only now pissed off because she realized that you were doing more than fine without her in your life.

She has/had no claim to you. She was banging another guy while you guys were split up, and was under the impression that you were just jacking it in the bathroom, but in reality you got more play than she did. Screw her, she's melodramatic.

By the way, did she check your e-mail without your permission? I'd be pissed off about that, she was obviously spying on you. Don't apologize for anything.
 
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She dumps you and dates her EX then she gets pissed because you see other women when your SINGLE...?

Ummm...NEXT
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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yea she checked my e-mail without asking, bloody well did piss me off, but I still like this girl
I'm stuck...
 
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It's fairly clear that you should forget about her and see other girls. She's completely manipulating you. Why would you want to be with a person that screws you this way?
 
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You spend 8 months with a girl and she is telling another dude how much she cares for him and you still want her??? You are pvssy-whipped!!

She is a manipulator and is trying to make you feel bad for what she herself did, with your friend at that! Keep your dignity and make her pay a price for her wrongdoing - don't listen to her weak pitiful excuses!!! If she had the nerve to do this once then she'll do it again! Leave her!
 
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Originally posted by PuertoRican_Lover
You spend 8 months with a girl and she is telling another dude how much she cares for him and you still want her??? You are pvsst-whipped!!

She is a manipulator and is trying to make you feel bad for what she herself did, with your friend at that! Keep your dignity and make her pay a price for her wrongdoing - don't listen to her weak pitiful excuses!!! If she had the nerve to do this once then she'll do it again! Leave her!
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I agree with the other guys. Put a big NEXT sign on "Little Miss I-Can't-Make-Up-My-Freaking-Mind" She needs to do a lot of growing up and develop some stability in her choice of men.

(I mean really! She had you and let you slip away...how smart could she be?):D

Go out and find some one who appreciates you. Completely ignore all communication from this flake.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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