"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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relationship on the Phone - Making me crzy - Help plz

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Dear all


Few months ago I moved to new area, I mat a girl in my way out and she was my neighbour, got her phone number. She is 24 and im 27. Been chatting and talking romance on the phone daily bases we even had phone sex. We went for coffee once only and since then we didn’t see each other again.
The problem im facing is that, everytime I ask to meet her she keep saying I got to study today, I got to see my friends maybe tomorrow and so on.

I like the girl very much and she likes me too, but I don’t . what should I do about it? Its making me crzy

Please help

Regards

Sam
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You know what you do when you can't meet up in the near days:
a) You "next" her with the possibly of coming back
b) You ignore the phone, cause her to wonder
c) You set a fun and anticipative date 2 weeks ahead. Revert back to b) if she's still kicking excuses. ^^,
 

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thanks for ur fast reply.
i have done what u just said but excuses happened again.
she was crzy when i ignored her phone calls,
we supposed to meet today but she canceled few hours ago by not calling me.

i like the girl alot,

need more advice

thanx
 

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Sammy boy... let me introduce you to my mystical powers. They're amazing... let me focus..

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Ok... I can see.. She's not hot! Actually... many will find her to be.. well... ugly!

So, you see... when you chatted and talked on the phone with her, she made a image of you. A very, very, very good image of you. A fantasy image of you that fitted her idea of their prince charming. I'm sure you're great and all, but you're not her type, not anymore... you gave her a chance of liking someone who isn't you.

Date other women.
 

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SamePendo pretty much took the words out of my mouth.

Been chatting and talking romance on the phone daily bases we even had phone sex.
You cannot maintain a relationship over the phone. The woman needs the whole package, not just your voice. She needs to see your facial expressions, your body language, and even your touch. Since you weren't providing her with all of this, she just created an image in her mind of this perfect, wonderful guy. You failed to live up to the fantasy man that she created in her mind.

Also, what the hell is up with Phone Sex? You can't stick your pecker through the reciever. Try aiming for real sex with a woman you can have physical contact with. It's much more satisfying and less messy.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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thanx for ur reply SamePendo.

exactly wat i thought but she keep saying i miss u and want to see u, she also keep talking about the way i look.

by the way she is really hot,,, many guys try for her. i mean hot hot
 
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