"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Relationship: how do you like to reward your woman?

Huffman

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I've been with this girl for a couple of months now and everything's gone pretty much 100% perfect. She's shown nothing than good behaviour all the time. I, on the other hand, have always played it cool, and recently I think I've been a bit too cold on her.

So I really like how this is going down, but I'm certainly not going to pull some chump moves that scream "commitment"... that will be her job. I'm on top of things and I like it to stay that way. ;)

Anyway since she's doing her best to please me I want to reward her, not with lame presents but just some small thing that shows I appreciate her, which she really deserves.

What kind of stuff do you guys do?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The Duke

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Why reward her with anything? Is she rewarding you for acting right? Just tell her your appreciate her great attitude, kiss her, and fuhk her brains out. No need for some special treatment, all that does is put them on a pedestal and give away your power.
 

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Flowers go a long way but are a bit of a ***** move so early. Howi is right tell her you appreciate having her in your life, say it nonchalante but be sincere.
 
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I'm not big on random gifts, but I do like to splurge on things that we both can enjoy. A weekend getaway, a nice night out on the town etc. Helps to keep things interesting.
 

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Agree. It's better buying experiences for you both. Take her ballooning, zorbing etc. And frame it as something u want to do. Only exception to this IMO is in LTR when u ve been on a long trip without them. If you can give some small gift that is related to one of your special things that's gold.

Just did that with my girlfriend. One of her pet names is koala. I got koala and devil hand puppets I spotted in some two dollar shop. It's gold because she knows you were thinking of her and it's Dirt Cheap.

In the interests of full disclosure I did get her a couple of hippie dresses from some local market. We were going there anyway with the rest of my family and also admit that my family is extremely blue pill and so girlfriend present buying was an approved activity. They know I am very red pill and sometimes I have to tread the path of appeasement to live it down. Such is life.
 
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“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
 
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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
A few weeks ago I took my girl to the beach. I don't particularly like the beach, and she knows that.

Last weekend I got complaints about how I didn't get in the water at the same time that she did. She said that "she made the most of the weekend."

The weekend that I paid for and suffered through on minimal sleep...because of work.

Women are unappreciative, bro. Sometimes I think it's best to treat them like sh1t and let them end it when they've had enough.
 
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After typing it out and reading it, I see that this was a sh1t test.

She acted out after I refused to go to a concert that she wanted to attend.

Stay frosty, gentlemen. Bitches be trippin'.
 

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Hew reward is me not dumping her today.
 

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Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself. Make sure to take some pics of her in it.

I once bought a pair of 6" stiletto heels for a girl as one of her Christmas gifts. She opened them, and then looked puzzled. "Shoes?" she said, "Why did you buy me shoes?" Then she had to think for a second (she was blonde). "OHHH! I get it. You want to fvck me in these!"
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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hockeyfreak79

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
If she's not asking for commitment then no weekend trips. After only 60 days hellz no. No need to act like her BF if you are just dating/plating her.

Agreed with TyTe too.
 

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At this stage, it's mostly little things you should be doing to reward her. If she's doing your dishes, go up to her, wrap your arms around her, and kiss her neck. If she's talking a lot, shut her up by kissing her. Make her dinner. Take her out for dinner in a different town. Buy her small things you know she'll like. Pick her a flower at random. Buying flowers shouldn't happen until after 1 year, and NEVER do it on a holiday. Buy them on an insignificant day just for the surprise factor.

When you're with her for a longer period of time, you can start buying her larger things. Get a themed hotel room for one night, get her inexpensive jewellery, a couples massage.

Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself.
I advise AGAINST buying your woman lingerie unless you take her shopping with you. Buying lingerie has backfired way too many times for me. She'll think she looks fat in it, or doesn't like the colour, etc etc. You have to both pick something YOU like, and something that she'll WANT to wear.
 

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It does take a little practice. Basically, all women are either too fat or too flat. Lingerie usually caters to one or the other.

Stores like Victoria's Secret and Frederic's of Hollywood are expensive as hell. The only stores in which I have seen cheap lingerie for sale are porno stores, and it's always in sealed little packets. A lot of those outfits are meant for skinny girls. For a thick girl with t!ts and ass, sometimes you don't really need lingerie, exactly, just something with a low cut top or short skirt for her to wear around the house for you.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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