"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Relationship: how do you like to reward your woman?

Huffman

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I've been with this girl for a couple of months now and everything's gone pretty much 100% perfect. She's shown nothing than good behaviour all the time. I, on the other hand, have always played it cool, and recently I think I've been a bit too cold on her.

So I really like how this is going down, but I'm certainly not going to pull some chump moves that scream "commitment"... that will be her job. I'm on top of things and I like it to stay that way. ;)

Anyway since she's doing her best to please me I want to reward her, not with lame presents but just some small thing that shows I appreciate her, which she really deserves.

What kind of stuff do you guys do?
 

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Why reward her with anything? Is she rewarding you for acting right? Just tell her your appreciate her great attitude, kiss her, and fuhk her brains out. No need for some special treatment, all that does is put them on a pedestal and give away your power.
 

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Flowers go a long way but are a bit of a ***** move so early. Howi is right tell her you appreciate having her in your life, say it nonchalante but be sincere.
 
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I'm not big on random gifts, but I do like to splurge on things that we both can enjoy. A weekend getaway, a nice night out on the town etc. Helps to keep things interesting.
 

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Agree. It's better buying experiences for you both. Take her ballooning, zorbing etc. And frame it as something u want to do. Only exception to this IMO is in LTR when u ve been on a long trip without them. If you can give some small gift that is related to one of your special things that's gold.

Just did that with my girlfriend. One of her pet names is koala. I got koala and devil hand puppets I spotted in some two dollar shop. It's gold because she knows you were thinking of her and it's Dirt Cheap.

In the interests of full disclosure I did get her a couple of hippie dresses from some local market. We were going there anyway with the rest of my family and also admit that my family is extremely blue pill and so girlfriend present buying was an approved activity. They know I am very red pill and sometimes I have to tread the path of appeasement to live it down. Such is life.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
 
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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
A few weeks ago I took my girl to the beach. I don't particularly like the beach, and she knows that.

Last weekend I got complaints about how I didn't get in the water at the same time that she did. She said that "she made the most of the weekend."

The weekend that I paid for and suffered through on minimal sleep...because of work.

Women are unappreciative, bro. Sometimes I think it's best to treat them like sh1t and let them end it when they've had enough.
 
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After typing it out and reading it, I see that this was a sh1t test.

She acted out after I refused to go to a concert that she wanted to attend.

Stay frosty, gentlemen. Bitches be trippin'.
 

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Hew reward is me not dumping her today.
 

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Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself. Make sure to take some pics of her in it.

I once bought a pair of 6" stiletto heels for a girl as one of her Christmas gifts. She opened them, and then looked puzzled. "Shoes?" she said, "Why did you buy me shoes?" Then she had to think for a second (she was blonde). "OHHH! I get it. You want to fvck me in these!"
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
If she's not asking for commitment then no weekend trips. After only 60 days hellz no. No need to act like her BF if you are just dating/plating her.

Agreed with TyTe too.
 

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At this stage, it's mostly little things you should be doing to reward her. If she's doing your dishes, go up to her, wrap your arms around her, and kiss her neck. If she's talking a lot, shut her up by kissing her. Make her dinner. Take her out for dinner in a different town. Buy her small things you know she'll like. Pick her a flower at random. Buying flowers shouldn't happen until after 1 year, and NEVER do it on a holiday. Buy them on an insignificant day just for the surprise factor.

When you're with her for a longer period of time, you can start buying her larger things. Get a themed hotel room for one night, get her inexpensive jewellery, a couples massage.

Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself.
I advise AGAINST buying your woman lingerie unless you take her shopping with you. Buying lingerie has backfired way too many times for me. She'll think she looks fat in it, or doesn't like the colour, etc etc. You have to both pick something YOU like, and something that she'll WANT to wear.
 

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It does take a little practice. Basically, all women are either too fat or too flat. Lingerie usually caters to one or the other.

Stores like Victoria's Secret and Frederic's of Hollywood are expensive as hell. The only stores in which I have seen cheap lingerie for sale are porno stores, and it's always in sealed little packets. A lot of those outfits are meant for skinny girls. For a thick girl with t!ts and ass, sometimes you don't really need lingerie, exactly, just something with a low cut top or short skirt for her to wear around the house for you.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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