"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Relationship: how do you like to reward your woman?

Huffman

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I've been with this girl for a couple of months now and everything's gone pretty much 100% perfect. She's shown nothing than good behaviour all the time. I, on the other hand, have always played it cool, and recently I think I've been a bit too cold on her.

So I really like how this is going down, but I'm certainly not going to pull some chump moves that scream "commitment"... that will be her job. I'm on top of things and I like it to stay that way. ;)

Anyway since she's doing her best to please me I want to reward her, not with lame presents but just some small thing that shows I appreciate her, which she really deserves.

What kind of stuff do you guys do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why reward her with anything? Is she rewarding you for acting right? Just tell her your appreciate her great attitude, kiss her, and fuhk her brains out. No need for some special treatment, all that does is put them on a pedestal and give away your power.
 

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Flowers go a long way but are a bit of a ***** move so early. Howi is right tell her you appreciate having her in your life, say it nonchalante but be sincere.
 
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I'm not big on random gifts, but I do like to splurge on things that we both can enjoy. A weekend getaway, a nice night out on the town etc. Helps to keep things interesting.
 

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Agree. It's better buying experiences for you both. Take her ballooning, zorbing etc. And frame it as something u want to do. Only exception to this IMO is in LTR when u ve been on a long trip without them. If you can give some small gift that is related to one of your special things that's gold.

Just did that with my girlfriend. One of her pet names is koala. I got koala and devil hand puppets I spotted in some two dollar shop. It's gold because she knows you were thinking of her and it's Dirt Cheap.

In the interests of full disclosure I did get her a couple of hippie dresses from some local market. We were going there anyway with the rest of my family and also admit that my family is extremely blue pill and so girlfriend present buying was an approved activity. They know I am very red pill and sometimes I have to tread the path of appeasement to live it down. Such is life.
 
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Huffman

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
 
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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
A few weeks ago I took my girl to the beach. I don't particularly like the beach, and she knows that.

Last weekend I got complaints about how I didn't get in the water at the same time that she did. She said that "she made the most of the weekend."

The weekend that I paid for and suffered through on minimal sleep...because of work.

Women are unappreciative, bro. Sometimes I think it's best to treat them like sh1t and let them end it when they've had enough.
 
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After typing it out and reading it, I see that this was a sh1t test.

She acted out after I refused to go to a concert that she wanted to attend.

Stay frosty, gentlemen. Bitches be trippin'.
 

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Hew reward is me not dumping her today.
 

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Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself. Make sure to take some pics of her in it.

I once bought a pair of 6" stiletto heels for a girl as one of her Christmas gifts. She opened them, and then looked puzzled. "Shoes?" she said, "Why did you buy me shoes?" Then she had to think for a second (she was blonde). "OHHH! I get it. You want to fvck me in these!"
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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hockeyfreak79

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Weekend trip is a great idea, mainly because I'm treating mostly myself here ;)
If she's not asking for commitment then no weekend trips. After only 60 days hellz no. No need to act like her BF if you are just dating/plating her.

Agreed with TyTe too.
 

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At this stage, it's mostly little things you should be doing to reward her. If she's doing your dishes, go up to her, wrap your arms around her, and kiss her neck. If she's talking a lot, shut her up by kissing her. Make her dinner. Take her out for dinner in a different town. Buy her small things you know she'll like. Pick her a flower at random. Buying flowers shouldn't happen until after 1 year, and NEVER do it on a holiday. Buy them on an insignificant day just for the surprise factor.

When you're with her for a longer period of time, you can start buying her larger things. Get a themed hotel room for one night, get her inexpensive jewellery, a couples massage.

Clearance-rack lingerie is always a great gift that is also a gift to yourself.
I advise AGAINST buying your woman lingerie unless you take her shopping with you. Buying lingerie has backfired way too many times for me. She'll think she looks fat in it, or doesn't like the colour, etc etc. You have to both pick something YOU like, and something that she'll WANT to wear.
 

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It does take a little practice. Basically, all women are either too fat or too flat. Lingerie usually caters to one or the other.

Stores like Victoria's Secret and Frederic's of Hollywood are expensive as hell. The only stores in which I have seen cheap lingerie for sale are porno stores, and it's always in sealed little packets. A lot of those outfits are meant for skinny girls. For a thick girl with t!ts and ass, sometimes you don't really need lingerie, exactly, just something with a low cut top or short skirt for her to wear around the house for you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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