"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Rejection feels good...

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OK guys, I'm a rAFC and tonight I was rejected(Although Admittingly I didn't really like the girl and was using her as "field practice") and I've never felt so happy in my life after rejection. Im serious... See, I used to get down on myself after rejection or being insulted in some way now its the ultimate motivational factor, for me atleast. I know from this experience(and it was pretty wild but I won't bore you guys with details) that my game is tighter then it was this morning... which really feels great. I love that I can spot and fix my mistakes and make my skills better for tomorrow. Its a good feeling and really takes the sting out of the fact that the girl doesn't like you(her loss, I never thought I would get to this point where I don't give a ****!).
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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No, actually... I had invited the girl to someplace where a group of people were headed, went today to an outing with her and 20 other people, and I was running a tight game(I had her laughing and kino'ed and she returned it), but I ****ed up on a number(I probably showed to much interest, she even called me "MEAN"(gotta work on those neg-hits) on 2 occasions) of things and she ended up saying "nay" and was all up on some other guy... whatever. So no, it wasn't even an approach just a girl no after the fact she accepted an invitation(Im the idiot who invited her on a outing where mad people were). So yea, learned a lot just by a rejection... and I know what I have to do next time to improve my chances. THats all.
 

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Isn't that weird? It can be hard for me to push myself to approach sometimes but once I do and I get rejected I get some sence of confidense and accomplishment.
 

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You know what's even better? That high you get when a girl doesn't reject you. You know what I am talking about... you feel like your on top of the world and can't stop smiling. It's like a drug...

If only half of the people on this board would get out there and approach. It's well worth it to get rejected 10 fold and to get 1 number...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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-HPNOTIQ-

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Accept rejection..but NEVER get used to it.

There's a fine line between accepting a rejection and getting used to the the fact that girls WILL reject you.

In honesty, I never look at anything I do as the WOMAN REJECTING ME....a woman REJECTING ME?? That's the most absurd thing I've ever heard.

In my mind - ITS HER LOSS!

Now take THAT attitude the next time you go out and most of all BELIEVE IN IT. Then, tell me how much MORE confidence you feel in your game.
 
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