Regret is the worst feeling. The worst feeling is not knowing. Rejection is hurtful but it's like a physical wound, it heals with time. Regret, does not. I agree, that sometimes the girl who broke your heart, you just say, I wish I never met the cuvnt. But just think of it this way, at least you had someone. There are forty year old men who have been with nothing but hookers out there. REGRET is far worse than REJECTION.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Rejection better than regret? Seriously?
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"Father?"
"Yes son?"
"What does 'regret' mean?"
"Well, son, the funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done, than regret something you haven't done. And by the way, when you see your mother this weekend, be sure and tell her,..SATAN SATAN SATAN!"
"Yes son?"
"What does 'regret' mean?"
"Well, son, the funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done, than regret something you haven't done. And by the way, when you see your mother this weekend, be sure and tell her,..SATAN SATAN SATAN!"
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Well I can't agree with anyone here. I have regretted the things I have done, but I do not regret any of the things I haven't done.
Didn't ask the girl out? Don't care.
Didn't take that job? Don't care.
Didn't go on that vacation? Don't care.
If any of it had really been that important to me I would have found a way to do it. I didn't do those things because obviously I didn't want them bad enough.
When I'm lying on my death bed I know I'll regret the things I have done far more than anything I didn't do. In fact, I'll probably have forgotten about the things I didn't do.
Didn't ask the girl out? Don't care.
Didn't take that job? Don't care.
Didn't go on that vacation? Don't care.
If any of it had really been that important to me I would have found a way to do it. I didn't do those things because obviously I didn't want them bad enough.
When I'm lying on my death bed I know I'll regret the things I have done far more than anything I didn't do. In fact, I'll probably have forgotten about the things I didn't do.
Again, CONTEXT, people!Luthor Rex said:
What you described is not regret at all. Those are just things you come across in your life that you didn't really care about either way.
Pook's "Rejection is better than regret" refers to a young man who badly wants to ask a woman out but because he's crippled by the fear of rejection, he did not. The regret was painful and made his blood boil with anger towards himself, far worse than the rejection he had once he listened to Pook and actually made a move.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
