Regret is the worst feeling. The worst feeling is not knowing. Rejection is hurtful but it's like a physical wound, it heals with time. Regret, does not. I agree, that sometimes the girl who broke your heart, you just say, I wish I never met the cuvnt. But just think of it this way, at least you had someone. There are forty year old men who have been with nothing but hookers out there. REGRET is far worse than REJECTION.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Rejection better than regret? Seriously?
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Rollo Tomassi
Master Don Juan
"Father?"
"Yes son?"
"What does 'regret' mean?"
"Well, son, the funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done, than regret something you haven't done. And by the way, when you see your mother this weekend, be sure and tell her,..SATAN SATAN SATAN!"
"Yes son?"
"What does 'regret' mean?"
"Well, son, the funny thing about regret is, it's better to regret something you have done, than regret something you haven't done. And by the way, when you see your mother this weekend, be sure and tell her,..SATAN SATAN SATAN!"
Luthor Rex
Master Don Juan
Well I can't agree with anyone here. I have regretted the things I have done, but I do not regret any of the things I haven't done.
Didn't ask the girl out? Don't care.
Didn't take that job? Don't care.
Didn't go on that vacation? Don't care.
If any of it had really been that important to me I would have found a way to do it. I didn't do those things because obviously I didn't want them bad enough.
When I'm lying on my death bed I know I'll regret the things I have done far more than anything I didn't do. In fact, I'll probably have forgotten about the things I didn't do.
Didn't ask the girl out? Don't care.
Didn't take that job? Don't care.
Didn't go on that vacation? Don't care.
If any of it had really been that important to me I would have found a way to do it. I didn't do those things because obviously I didn't want them bad enough.
When I'm lying on my death bed I know I'll regret the things I have done far more than anything I didn't do. In fact, I'll probably have forgotten about the things I didn't do.
Again, CONTEXT, people!Luthor Rex said:
What you described is not regret at all. Those are just things you come across in your life that you didn't really care about either way.
Pook's "Rejection is better than regret" refers to a young man who badly wants to ask a woman out but because he's crippled by the fear of rejection, he did not. The regret was painful and made his blood boil with anger towards himself, far worse than the rejection he had once he listened to Pook and actually made a move.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
