"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Nah it wasnt bad. But i did get turned down.

This chick at work always flirts with me and **** always touching me and getting right up in my face to talk and staring into my eyes n ****.

Shes got her little nickname for me, gringo or some **** lal, but so my buddy sees her flirting with me and hes like "dude, get her ****ing number so we can double date". I was like ok will do...so...

I come up to her and im like.
Me- What do you guys do for fun in Monteray (where she lives)
Her- Oh we drink and smoke some weed, and play sega and old school nintendo blah blah blah
Me - Oh cool, were gonna have to hang out, but im not smoking weed, so no peer pressure.
Her- Ok, but (something about i cant get with her because she has a boyfriend)
Me- Oh no if i was going to ask you out i would have already done it (lying my ass off obviously but i WANTED to say "Whats ur ****ing point"...but didnt.
Her- Ok just making sure. (as i was walking off)

I suck. The end.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LOL, I take it that this chick is Latino?

Gringo is spanish for either white boy or Americano.
 
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LOL, I take it that this chick is Latino?

Gringo is spanish for either white boy or Americano.
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Nah shes white, she is just mildy retarded.
 
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I come up to her and im like.
Me- What do you guys do for fun in Monteray (where she lives)
Her- Oh we drink and smoke some weed, and play sega and old school nintendo blah blah blah
Me - Oh cool, were gonna have to hang out, but im not smoking weed, so no peer pressure.

Dude, no good here. Translation: "When we hang out, I'm not going to do what you do and I don't want you to force me to do something either" She hasn't even given the green light to ask her, and you're already implying you will get together.

What you should have said:

"I enjoy Sega too. Perhaps we could get together and talk about it some more over coffee?"

Her- Ok, but (something about i cant get with her because she has a boyfriend)
Me- Oh no if i was going to ask you out i would have already done it (lying my ass off obviously but i WANTED to say "Whats ur ****ing point"...but didnt.

Translation: I asked you out and assumed you already said yes, but since you shot me down and told me had a bf, I'm quickly backtracking to make sure I don't look like a fool in front of you.

What you should have said:

"Oh that's too bad, I would have loved to get to know you better. Well, maybe some other time, some other place."

Her- Ok just making sure. (as i was walking off)

I suck. The end.
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You didn't make her feel important and wanted in the conversation. You made it feel like you just wanted to smoke weed, play games, and screw her brains out. Granted, even if you were like James Bond she would still have had a boyfriend, but she would have been thinking about you alot more after you left.

Props for trying.
 
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DonJuan11 said:
You didn't make her feel important and wanted in the conversation. You made it feel like you just wanted to smoke weed, play games, and screw her brains out. Granted, even if you were like James Bond she would still have had a boyfriend, but she would have been thinking about you alot more after you left.

Props for trying.
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I told her i dont smoke weed, and (didnt tell her but) i hate the **** outta sega. Screw her, yes.

Thx for the advice, ill keep that in mind for next time :yes:

Come to think of it she seemed kinda sad after i left (like all mopey and sad like her puppy died) , i think i made her feel bad but later i cracked a few jokes and made her smile so hopefully i didnt hurt her little feelings (im a ****...)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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DonJuan11 said:
"I enjoy sega too, perhaps we can get together and discuss it over coffee"
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:crackup: lol are you being serious there? Ok, i don't agree with asking a girl to get together and discuss sega over COFFEE lol. I think that's an ideal time to be playful and challenging.

"I enjoy sega too, i bet i'd kick ur ass at sonic." with a sly smile

Yep, challenging, ****y, playful..
 
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Nah shes white, she is just mildy retarded.
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Weed does kill brain cells.

P.S.
Don't EVER talk about Sega or any video games over coffee hahaha...
 
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You did the right thing by asking her out. You did what you had to do.

Props for trying.
 
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Me- What do you guys do for fun in Monteray (where she lives)
Her- Oh we drink and smoke some weed, and play sega and old school nintendo blah blah blah

I suck. The end.
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I hate to put u on blast partna' but if your story really is what u say it is and you said the things u claim to have said than 1) u didn't do anything wrong and this girl is f---ing geek who is not worth your time. Or 2) You're living in a fantasy world and need a new hobbie because the probability of an HB being interested in old school sega or nintendo has about the same odds as...use your imagination.
I'm by no means an expert but encouraging your fantasies r not going 2 do u any good!!
 
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Never, ever suggest to hang out with a girl. NEVER. You asked for that rejection bro. Suggesting to hang out sometime is 9 out of 10 followed by some variant of "I have a boyfriend."

I do give you props for trying.

BTW, DonJuan11 gave you the answer to your situation.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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muffin said:
I hate to put u on blast partna' but if your story really is what u say it is and you said the things u claim to have said than 1) u didn't do anything wrong and this girl is f---ing geek who is not worth your time. Or 2) You're living in a fantasy world and need a new hobbie because the probability of an HB being interested in old school sega or nintendo has about the same odds as...use your imagination.
I'm by no means an expert but encouraging your fantasies r not going 2 do u any good!!
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If your suggeseting im lying im not, thats exactly what hapend almost word for word, ( my memory is not perfect ) .

She is prolly at 3/5 on my richter scale. Not perfect by any means but not ugly either.

So take ur "hatorade" and "drop that **** like its hot" cuz the "**** be annoying dawgz".

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daygameguy said:
You did the right thing by asking her out. You did what you had to do.

Props for trying.
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Agreed.

And I do not agree with "talking over coffee" but DonJuan11's response was perfect. instead of talking over coffee I would have arranged a time to meet up and actually _play_ sega with her
 
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