"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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rejected, then she wants me?

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I asked a girl out at the beginning of april.
she ambiguously and confusingly said what i figured was "no" and i just moved on (something i'm kinda proud of =D) even though i really liked her.

now her best male-friend is telling me that she only said no because she had an awkward prom date (she didn't know if he wanted to date her of just prom-date her) and that she would definitely not reject me if i made a move again.

I don't doubt that she'll accept this time because she's always flirty with me even since the rejection to now (not to mention she specifically said so to her male friend), but my first "DJ instinct" is that i should not "reward" her with my efforts after she was being unclear and basically put me on the backburner for later.

is this right? or would it not really hurt my DJ'ness to ask her out again?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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today:
smiled at her in the hallway, she smiled back.

during lunch she came over to our table and chatted with another guy at the table. She glanced at me a few times but i didn't know what to do so i just continued my convo with another person i was talking to.

she then went to a nearby table and ate with her friend. i noticed she may have looked in the direction of our table a few times.
 
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Ask her out and then you know!

Yes = yes
No but suggests an alternative = yes
No = no
Maybe = no
Maybe and then another maybe = forget it

No matter how much you want to be subtle and smooth, she will not deny you if she's really interested.
 
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Yeah man, the best way of getting rid of your headache is just to ask her out.

It will do two things for you - it will

SAVE YOUR TIME

and

IT WILL DETERMINE WHETHER SHE IS INTO YOU OR NOT

besides didn't you say that you moved on?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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i did

I asked her out an we went on 2 dates already! I'm glad i did because things are going well. Maybe she wasn't trying to reject me completely earlier, or maybe she is just being mysterious on purpose.
 
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