"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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rejected, then she wants me?

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I asked a girl out at the beginning of april.
she ambiguously and confusingly said what i figured was "no" and i just moved on (something i'm kinda proud of =D) even though i really liked her.

now her best male-friend is telling me that she only said no because she had an awkward prom date (she didn't know if he wanted to date her of just prom-date her) and that she would definitely not reject me if i made a move again.

I don't doubt that she'll accept this time because she's always flirty with me even since the rejection to now (not to mention she specifically said so to her male friend), but my first "DJ instinct" is that i should not "reward" her with my efforts after she was being unclear and basically put me on the backburner for later.

is this right? or would it not really hurt my DJ'ness to ask her out again?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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today:
smiled at her in the hallway, she smiled back.

during lunch she came over to our table and chatted with another guy at the table. She glanced at me a few times but i didn't know what to do so i just continued my convo with another person i was talking to.

she then went to a nearby table and ate with her friend. i noticed she may have looked in the direction of our table a few times.
 
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Ask her out and then you know!

Yes = yes
No but suggests an alternative = yes
No = no
Maybe = no
Maybe and then another maybe = forget it

No matter how much you want to be subtle and smooth, she will not deny you if she's really interested.
 
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Yeah man, the best way of getting rid of your headache is just to ask her out.

It will do two things for you - it will

SAVE YOUR TIME

and

IT WILL DETERMINE WHETHER SHE IS INTO YOU OR NOT

besides didn't you say that you moved on?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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i did

I asked her out an we went on 2 dates already! I'm glad i did because things are going well. Maybe she wasn't trying to reject me completely earlier, or maybe she is just being mysterious on purpose.
 
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