Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Rejected, should I ask her again???

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Asked out my little girlie...unfortunately I got rejected, it went something like this:

me: what are you doin next weekend??

her:babbels about working next saturday,then asks why?

me:well...I was thinkin about takin you out shoppin.... and then maybe go for some coffe or somethin...but I guess thats gonna be kind of hard for you?

Her: no...im sorry...like I said...Im workin next weekend...

What should I do about this kind of situation??
should I ask her out again... but just wait sometime??
did i wrong when I didn't ask for another time..`??
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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hmmm...I asked her: what about sunday, then???
nope...I gotta clean for christmas...(shes got some kind of psychotic thing for christmas cleaning cuz she has bad experiences with it [don't ask me how I know, I just do.])
 

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You're in denial.

She doesn't like you.

Accept it.

In fact, she might even be turned off/repulsed by you.

Why?

She fricking made up a story ahead of time RIGHT when you asked her what she was doing then had the audacity to feign innocence and ask "why?"

Next her.

"Christmas cleaning?" Wtf? My ass. That's a bull**** reason and you know it. Don't give me any of that "oh yeah she's got a thing for cleaning you know. She's not rejecting me. don't ask me how I know I just do teehee"

BULLLLSHHHIIITTT

If you still think she likes you, ask her to let you help clean. She'll be like, "no I like cleaning alone" or some **** like that. Or she might use you to tidy up her place.

MOVE THE **** ON MAN.

That is all.
 

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Maybe this one's just playing hard to get...

Haha in either case, you DID get rejected, but don't feel bad. Figure out what you may have done wrong, anaylze it but don't dwell on it, and move on.
 

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wtf....Im not makin this up...Btw she's been babblin about christmas cleanin all week... so dont tell me im makin this up... shes still ****in goin to a psychologist about it...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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good... some constructive critisizm...at least thats a start..
 

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Originally posted by Bile
(shes got some kind of psychotic thing for christmas cleaning cuz she has bad experiences with it [don't ask me how I know, I just do.])
um...I didn't say you were making it up. You said it.

Anyways, sorry I was kinda harsh, but I think you need to distance yourself a bit. Especially since you asked her to go shopping for HER. Who'd turn that down? Well...her of course. because she's not interested right now. Nice try, gj having the balls to ask, but as AC/DC and I said, learn from this and move on.
 

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AFK, I think your advice has gotten better since you left.
 

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thats part of what I really like about her... maybe I should just tell the whole story:

when she was like seven... her daddy used to throw all of her stuff away when it was time for christmas cleanin...and since she didnt have the guts to tell him off she just keept it inside of herself....until when she was like 15... then she had a breakdown... and started to see a psychologist...

seems really ****ed up huh?I guess it is... but thats what I like about her...well I guess i better just forgett about it and move on...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bile,

If I were you, I wouldn't give up just yet. I would make sure that I didn't have a chance. Especially since you seem to like the girl.
 

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Originally posted by AFK Protector
Anyways, I hope you're doing well with life, women, and the works.:)

Same to you bro. ;)
 

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so what should I do???
wait for about a week or two???
 

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Originally posted by Bile
so what should I do???
wait for about a week or two???

Just ease up a bit. You don't want to come off desperate. I would probably wait a week and ask her about her plans. If she gives you a sh!t excuse, NEXT.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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