I feel like I'm regressing maybe cause of the realization that I'm not making the progress that I perceived it to be. I started to view this site almost a year ago and everything started great with approaching. However I realized I can't get dates and get rejected a lot. Women tell me I'm good looking yet avg looking chicks reject me. It's getting so annoying that I just wanna give up. But I've been obsessed with learning about chicks for 1 year that I basically forgot how to lose myself in soemthing that matters. I work and workout but don't reallyhang out with friends.
Has anyone hit a weird road after visiting visiting this site like this?
What could I do change all this
Yes, we've all hit road blocks. It's inevitable with anything in life. You're only at the beginning of your journey so don't get discouraged.
From this post it sounds like you're still outcome dependent. This means, you're invested in your results with women. The problem with this is that there is "vibe" or an "aura" as other posters have said, that exudes desperation. It's subconscious and it's body language and it's very difficult to eliminate with will alone. The only way to truly eliminate it is to actually not care about the outcome of an interaction with a woman.
The perfect example of this phenomenon is how women seem to
flock to you when you have a girlfriend and you're not looking for a woman.
Working on your life is as important as building your skills with women. I would be investing as much, if not more time, into your friends, hobbies, career and health. You want to live your life primarily, and add women in as a secondary. If you have people you love and passions to spend time on, you won't care as much about getting rejected because you can just go and do those things instead.
It's a long road but you need to start reframing your interactions with women now. You shouldn't care about the outcome of
any interaction with
any woman. You should be aiming to have fun and nothing more. See a woman you find cute? She makes eye contact and smiles? Go talk to her, not with the intent of dating her, not with the intent of having sex with her, not with the intent of
even getting her number, you go up to her to see if she is fun and to have fun with her.