"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Regarding Compliments

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If a guy is really good looking. How often will women compliment him on his looks? Average looking? below-average looking?

If she checks you out a lot, but never compliments you, what does that mean?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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i almost never get complimented on my looks.
 

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I've had many girls tell me they think I'm a cutie, sexy, and/or hottie. It doesn't happen on a daily basis, but I'd say once every couple of weeks usually.

However, I get guys telling me that I'm a good-looking dude all the time =\.
 

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guys will never put down other guys on the looks dept.

What about Gay guys hiting on you? If they do, does that mean you are really good looking?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ive gotten compliments from gay guys before and a few of my gay friends. I always take it as a compliment bc chicks usually dig how they look.
 

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hmm... my looks... i have never really had a problem with girls, they never say im ugly, but i also dont get the "OMG youre so sexy" or "you're hot" or "you're cute" from them... and even if they do its usually sarcastic... women are all bout social proof for me. other than social proof i'd probably never get a good lookin girl...

my looks: short, glasses, spikey hair. i dress down A LOT. i dont like dressin in that sean jean or jerseys even though i got a lot because its just gay if u ask me. i just wear jeans and a t-shirt. i am pretty athletic, but dont join clubs/sports cuz dont i dont got time. i look small, but am pretty tuff and i also like to be toned. i dont got a six-pack or a beer gut. i am in between. my face is long. that's bout it. i got a little bit of acne too, and the occasional breakout. i got REALLY REALLY oily skin.
 

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It means she is "confident" in herself...

Also depends on how long she has been per se "checking you out"

To keep this type you will have to become more confident in yourself.

She may also be waiting for you to make the move...
 

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I agree with jnallen. I've been told I was cute by two girls that work at a bar as bartenders. However, the third bartender there I managed to get super interested in me has never given me a compliment.
 

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From my experience, girls hardly give personal direct compliments. They might compliment u aboput your shoes your hair your body whatever, if they think your cute tho they'ed usually tell it to their friends and ask for their approveal. It probably has to do with the same reason why they won't ask u out, it would be seen as desperate and as hitting on you and a girl with self respect won't be caught dead doing that.

Somtimes i get the "sexything" comment from girls on the outside when i'm walking the street but its mostly from younger girls who are in HS or not so attractive girls. If she know's u well then she might give u a compliment also. Either way from my experience grls are alot more agressive these days and if they see a guy they like they usually walk up and start convo.

I remeber this one time I was walking by thi private school and tthis bunch of girls started hollain at me from up in their class, the thing is I couldn't see any of them so I just dismissed them and went about my buisness. I guess my taughts are girls are usualy more conservative about their compliments and do it technically on a downlow.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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well its very rare a girl will compliment you on your looks..

because she is the one seeking looks approval... and wants to be complimented...

if they give you eye contact immeditately and give you lots of initial positive response... you can bet they think you are a stud!
 

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eye contact and positive response on initial response can mean nothing either. women want attention any way they can get these days
 
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