"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Regain My Mojo And Get Some Ho-Ho's

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I used to have no problem with the ladies due to my dashing good looks but the droping out of school and doing nothing for 2 years and haveing to face up to demons and not so normal family life took its toll on me. I stoped eating rite and lost weight (Now I'm too skinny) Too many sleepless nights and to much worrying have destroyed my confidence and looks. I had to face up to the fact I don't really like myself and when I go out being the ****y bastard I know inside I dont belive my own hype. When I droped out of school I was 16 now Im 18 and even when I hooked up with the girls then I never fully had faith in myself. Where im from (Ireland) you're able to go to pubs and clubs and go drinking at 18 (Suprise Suprise I hear you say) but since I turned 18 I havent had the guts to show my face as Im afraid the ladies wont be wooed by my advances. Im also doubting wheter I can pull off the ****y/funny routine as I dont belive it myself when I do It and feel I just look like a **** who's trying to hard. How do I banish these insercuites and become a man? Help me brothers as I am need of help. Bless you.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I will study that. Is it possible for ANY man to become a mack daddy? I aint the worst looking but I feel I smell of desperation and lack of confidence.
 

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What are you doing with your education.. There are colleges, tech schools, trade schools.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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