You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
randomusername said:what if....you order her an adios mother****er or a double with an extra shot of cuervo in there...don't even let her choose the drink....something strong which will make her reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally drunk just to get ****s and giggles..no weak girly drinks....maybe the 3 Wisemen (Jack Daniels, Jim Bean and Jose Cuervo in succession)...or "bartender, 4 shots of patron in one glass with some ice" and have her drink it in front of you...................
another thing is order something completely off the wall:
yeah, a tequilla, jaegermeister and cranberry juice please!
of course, you should have a lot of disposible income just to see what happens......making chicks vomit = hotness. sure it'll cost 30 or 40 bucks, but when she's on the bar flashin' her titties, you know you played a part in her downfall!
"Bartender, a quadruple shot of patron for the lady"!
and if the bartender refuses or she refuses the drink, just say "i tried" as she walks away pissed....no lose situation! 40 bucks well spent for you to grow a legend amoungst your friends
i'm actually gonna do this next time i'm out.....see what happens...
Lol...:crackup:randomusername said:what if....you order her an adios mother****er or a double with an extra shot of cuervo in there...don't even let her choose the drink....something strong which will make her reeeeeeeeeeeeeeally drunk just to get ****s and giggles..no weak girly drinks....maybe the 3 Wisemen (Jack Daniels, Jim Bean and Jose Cuervo in succession)...or "bartender, 4 shots of patron in one glass with some ice" and have her drink it in front of you...................
another thing is order something completely off the wall:
yeah, a tequilla, jaegermeister and cranberry juice please!
of course, you should have a lot of disposible income just to see what happens......making chicks vomit = hotness. sure it'll cost 30 or 40 bucks, but when she's on the bar flashin' her titties, you know you played a part in her downfall!
"Bartender, a quadruple shot of patron for the lady"!
and if the bartender refuses or she refuses the drink, just say "i tried" as she walks away pissed....no lose situation! 40 bucks well spent for you to grow a legend amoungst your friends
i'm actually gonna do this next time i'm out.....see what happens...
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.