Refused sex

[Divorced w 3]

Way to blow a molehill into a mountain. Lay the pipe and the rest will handle itself.

 

[BeExcellent]

Yes I think this is a good analysis of her perspective that she could have felt that I was only interested in sex. However obviously this has some months of context. But in isolation yes she could have felt that I was only interested in sex because she refused and I took her home. In context it doesn´t make total sense because the night before she wasn´t feeling good it was midnight and I drove to 3 chemists just to buy her medication and paid for it where as I could have just not given a sh*t. I think it´s true to say that everyone at times take isolated incidents and don´t consider the context so its very possible she felt this way.

So basically she wasn't feeling well. She had sex with you night before (after taking medication I presume) but the next morning you are horny and you have forgotten/are not concerned that she isn't feeling well so when she passes on sex you act really immature.

I get y'all are a few months in, but this is not about you. She didn't feel well, accomodated you the night before & the next morning you only care about yourself. That is a HUGE turn off.

Not good.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Seeing a 22 year old chick for a couple months and smashed her several times.

A couple days ago we hooked up in the evening and smashed her as usual but she was extremely wet to the point that I had to change rubbers mid-way through. She orgasmed and in my view it was the best sex we´ve had to date.

She slept at mine and the next morning I initiate some kino with her, she leaves the bed uses the bathroom and disappears for 10 minutes. When she comes back she sits on an armchair in the room I say to her come to bed and she comes and I start initiating with her again and she says "stop last night was enough for me". I act cold with her and get ready to leave and drop her home. She questions what´s wrong and I say nothing. After we talk about it over text and she says she doesn´t like having sex in the morning - I ask her why and she says just her preference. I didn´t reply and we haven´t spoken since (about 1 day).

Is it acceptable for your woman to refuse sex and what should is a good way of dealing with it?

Unless you are a rapist then yes it's acceptable.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Jesus Farkin Chryst, she was fackin' SICK. So what you went to the pharmacy for her, its what a normal human being would do.

 

[BadBoy89]

After we talk about it over text and she says she doesn´t like having sex in the morning - I ask her why and she says just her preference. I didn´t reply and we haven´t spoken since (about 1 day).

Is it acceptable for your woman to refuse sex and what should is a good way of dealing with it?

The OP was correct in his behaviour.

She doesn’t like having sex in the morning as it’s “just her preference?” OK, fair enough. Next time they are out together and some guy physically attacks her, the OP should let him and say “I don’t like protecting you in the morning. If she asks “why”? The OP can say “just his preference.”

If she can pick and choose when she wants to have sex with him, the OP can pick and choose when he wants to protect her.

 

[parabellum]

My limited experience tells me that the more a woman has fck in her life, the more likely she would be to have these preferences and similar sht.

women that are pair bonded with you will try hard to please you in any regard or at least offer a counteroffer or a reasonable explanation.

 

[Masculinity]

I act cold with her and get ready to leave and drop her home. She questions what´s wrong and I say nothing. After we talk about it over text and she says she doesn´t like having sex in the morning - I ask her why and she says just her preference. I didn´t reply and we haven´t spoken since (about 1 day).

I do not think you responded well to the situation. Behaving emotionally and throwing a fit in the absence of s*x is childish.

Women experience a lot of friction during intercourse, especially if they are penetrated aggressively or have s*x for an extended period of time. In other words, the skin in the v@ginal canal becomes irritated and very sensitive, which leads to pain.

Seek to understand your audience to become a better Don Juan. If you are getting laid, I would not make it a big deal.

 

[self_is_an_illusion]

Seeing a 22 year old chick for a couple months and smashed her several times.

A couple days ago we hooked up in the evening and smashed her as usual but she was extremely wet to the point that I had to change rubbers mid-way through. She orgasmed and in my view it was the best sex we´ve had to date.

She slept at mine and the next morning I initiate some kino with her, she leaves the bed uses the bathroom and disappears for 10 minutes. When she comes back she sits on an armchair in the room I say to her come to bed and she comes and I start initiating with her again and she says "stop last night was enough for me". I act cold with her and get ready to leave and drop her home. She questions what´s wrong and I say nothing. After we talk about it over text and she says she doesn´t like having sex in the morning - I ask her why and she says just her preference. I didn´t reply and we haven´t spoken since (about 1 day).

Is it acceptable for your woman to refuse sex and what should is a good way of dealing with it?

shes a human being with her own autonomy bro relax

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Then there´s the other question of do I want a woman who after great leg shaking sex decides on a whim the next morning that she doesn´t want to. A high quality woman should generally be ready when I want (of course there´s exceptions) seems a lot of guys here too ready to accept her behaviour and tag along with tea and snuggles.

I guess it's pretty difficult when your imaginary girlfriend refuses sex.

 

[manfrombelow]

OP, you were making a mountain out of a molehill.

Your reaction would have been justified if she refused sex with you the night before too. But, according to your own words, she gave you great sex, she even got so wet you had to change sheets midway. She was submissive, femine, and into you the entire night (assumingly). And what did you do? You "purnished" her GOOD BEHAVIOUR by doing what you did.

It's OK for some girls to not like morning sex, because morning is when they normally wear makeup, get dressed, and ready to go out, that's why it's TOTALLY normal and healthy for some women to not want to have morning sex with you. Not everything must happen like that porn scene, you know?

You should have kept your cool, and offered to have some nice breakfast with her. After all you're the man, but you were acting like a spoiled child throwing a tantrum because he couldn't pursuade his parents to buy him that shiny toy at the store. Come on man!

 

[BPH]

The OP was correct in his behaviour.

She doesn’t like having sex in the morning as it’s “just her preference?” OK, fair enough. Next time they are out together and some guy physically attacks her, the OP should let him and say “I don’t like protecting you in the morning. If she asks “why”? The OP can say “just his preference.”

If she can pick and choose when she wants to have sex with him, the OP can pick and choose when he wants to protect her.

Holy ****ing **** what is wrong with some of you on here. Do you guys even LIKE women or do you just want to have the upper hand or something?

The fact that somebody liked this dumbass comment is wild to me too.

 

[manfrombelow]

Holy ****ing **** what is wrong with some of you on here. Do you guys even LIKE women or do you just want to have the upper hand or something?

The fact that somebody liked this dumbass comment is wild to me too.

Some of these idiots are too obsessed with being "alpha" to the point their brains simply stop functioning like a normal human being with common sense.

In the OP's case: He failed to understand that it is PERFECTLY NORMAL for a girl (also a human being, in case he forgot) to not want to have sex in the morning (like that latest porn scene he'd watch) after she already had given him very good sex the night before. He could have offered her a cup of coffee or even better, a hearty meal of breakfast as a way to "thank" her for being submissive sexually to him.

Instead he chose to act like a d!ck out of fear of not... being "alpha" enough! SMH!

Guys, please remember you have to be a decent human being with common sense FIRST before you try to be an "alpha male" (no matter how you define the concept).

 

[AureliusMaximus]

Advice from the old lady:

Facepalm. Your reaction OP (to act cold etc.) is really dum b if you want the interaction to continue. You think you are being all masculine but really you are being a jerk, you drop her off, say nothing etc.

You just erased any doubt in her mind that A.) You care ONLY about sex and B.) You ARE in fact an ass hole.

A self respecting woman would ghost you after that.

The correct response would have been simply to say "Ok." followed up by "Come snuggle" or "Let's grab some coffee", which could have shown her you actually see her as a human being and have some kindness in your soul.

Let us know how it works out for ya, but when you treat women as strictly objects, don't be surprised when they refuse to continue the interaction.

There was no need to blow this up OP.

Some of you guys need to learn to REWARD the behavior (sex) that she is giving you if you'd like that behavior to continue. That means acting like you give a crap about the other person from time to time.

This is on OP.

Some guys are just retards and totally clueless to how chicks "operate and function".

 

[BeExcellent]

And then these guys wonder why they are perpetually single.

I dunno. Common denominator much?

 

[Murk]

Some of you guys need to learn to REWARD the behavior (sex) that she is giving you if you'd like that behavior to continue. That means acting like you give a crap about the other person from time to time.

That reminds me, must check in with a plate to pretend I care. Thanks B.

 

[DarkKnight100]

Just to follow up the majority of you were wrong. The general consensus was that I was immature and i’d never hear from her again. A lot of personal insults flew my way which I find ironic considering its from guys calling me immature. Throwing insults on an online forum to someone you don’t know anything about is pretty dumb and immature - it’s something you do when your own life is lacking and it manifests in venting your frustrations at others. Some of the responses were so emotional it’s as if you were the girls best friend lol. A failure to think objectively, communicate maturely and basically beta emotional guys.

Anyway in between there were some good points about maybe she was sick, self-conscious or felt I was only interested in sex. Also to ensure my withdrawals of attention/disapprovals don’t come across as tantrums although I’m by nature calm still worth keeping in mind. And to make sure my indifference doesn’t go too far as to make her feel I don’t care.

I kept my distance, withdrew attention and she chased me. We met and I showed her some care without being a p*ssy. We hooked up again and had sex. She now sending me photos of getting her hair and nails done and telling me she misses me. But some intelligent guy thinks it’s imaginary so go figure I must have a great imagination lol .

 

[Black Widow Void]

Everyone is different. It could be that on this particular morning, she had things on her mind and her 'well was dry.'

Just to give an example; my girl said that I could wake her up if I wanted, but I won't offer the same. I'll service her in the morning and/or night, but if I'm asleep, she better not wake me.

 

[MatureDJ]

Aaron Clarey thinks that women just don't care much for sex:

 

[Dr.Suave]

Just to follow up the majority of you were wrong. The general consensus was that I was immature and i’d never hear from her again. A lot of personal insults flew my way which I find ironic considering its from guys calling me immature. Throwing insults on an online forum to someone you don’t know anything about is pretty dumb and immature - it’s something you do when your own life is lacking and it manifests in venting your frustrations at others. Some of the responses were so emotional it’s as if you were the girls best friend lol. A failure to think objectively, communicate maturely and basically beta emotional guys.

Anyway in between there were some good points about maybe she was sick, self-conscious or felt I was only interested in sex. Also to ensure my withdrawals of attention/disapprovals don’t come across as tantrums although I’m by nature calm still worth keeping in mind. And to make sure my indifference doesn’t go too far as to make her feel I don’t care.

I kept my distance, withdrew attention and she chased me. We met and I showed her some care without being a p*ssy. We hooked up again and had sex. She now sending me photos of getting her hair and nails done and telling me she misses me. But some intelligent guy thinks it’s imaginary so go figure I must have a great imagination lol .

D@mn, three paragraphs just to say " @BeExcellent was wrong"

Ah just messin with you guys.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Aaron Clarey thinks that women just don't care much for sex:

"Until they meet a me..."