"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Refusal pisses them off.

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When I went out on Friday, I was speaking to a guy and he said: "Listen, you have to understand that this is [city name]. You've GOT to buy women drinks here."

This flies in the face of everything that I've learned on this board and other materials. So I went on a test. Four women literally said to me "Buy me a drink!". I just looked at them and said "No. Buy me one, and if I still like you, then I'll buy you one."

I could not believe how pissed off they seemed to get. Three gave me a dirty look, and the fourth tried

"Don't you know that a man should always buy a woman a drink when she asks for one?"

I replied "Do you buy a drink for anyone who asks for one? Why don't you buy me one?".

"Are you cheap, or what?"

"Do you only attract guys who are so pathetic that the only way they interest you is if they buy you drinks?"

"A-hole" and walks off.

Personally, I sort of enjoyed it. But I'd like to get your opinion on the matter. I was probably not totally charming in my delivery (how does one say such a thing in a charming way?)

Thoughts on the matter?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If a woman asks me to buy her a drink, I would respond with something like, "Whats in it for me?" After her response I can probably tell if she's a ***** or worth pursuing.
 
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well you were being an idiot about it which is why when they asked you for a drink, they got pissed. starting arguments is very unalpha and caring about what they say is also unalpha. you just acted like a little kid so they treated you like one.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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