reframing girl situation

[jlr12584]

There is this girl i've been seeing who is very independent and seems to be elusive when it comes to a relationship. i asked for it once and she said shes not ready for one and just wants to date. i have kissed and slept with this girl many times and i told her i would keep pursuing her until she gives in and she smiles and laughs at it. i saw her sunday and we had sex, and then on monday we talked on the phone and i asked how she feels about me and shes like i care a lot for you, but not in love and i guess i kind of pushed the relationship idea. well i said i understand i see how u feel i think i need some space and she goes me too. well the past few days she'll text me once in a while but we havent talked on the phone lately... i want to know what i can do to make her appreciate having me around and how i can present a challenge. i know theres some things i've probably been doing wrong. any help is appreciated.

 

[jlr12584]

no advice?

 

[Microphone Fiend]

read ALL of this thread
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=18378

Other than that, spin plates and read the archives/DJ Bible

 

[WC2]

You can't "make" a woman do anything. You have to make a woman "feel" for you. By you pushing her into a relationship, that's probably the opposite of what she wants now. She doesn't want to be pushed into a relationship.. she wants to fall in it (ever wonder why they call it falling into love?).

Back off, stop talking to her. If she initiates contact, tell her maybe some other time. If she attempts again, go for it, but don't be so needy as you have been. The idea here is to make the woman needy for you.

 

[Tyron]

you have to read some stuff. I knew from the beginning of your post how it would end. Don't ever suggest a relationship. Don't tell you will always keep pursuing her, ever again. Have a lot of plates. Someone will probably write better answer, but all your questions are answer in the DJ Bible! (And it's not called a bible for nothing)