"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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jlr12584

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There is this girl i've been seeing who is very independent and seems to be elusive when it comes to a relationship. i asked for it once and she said shes not ready for one and just wants to date. i have kissed and slept with this girl many times and i told her i would keep pursuing her until she gives in and she smiles and laughs at it. i saw her sunday and we had sex, and then on monday we talked on the phone and i asked how she feels about me and shes like i care a lot for you, but not in love and i guess i kind of pushed the relationship idea. well i said i understand i see how u feel i think i need some space and she goes me too. well the past few days she'll text me once in a while but we havent talked on the phone lately... i want to know what i can do to make her appreciate having me around and how i can present a challenge. i know theres some things i've probably been doing wrong. any help is appreciated.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Microphone Fiend

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You can't "make" a woman do anything. You have to make a woman "feel" for you. By you pushing her into a relationship, that's probably the opposite of what she wants now. She doesn't want to be pushed into a relationship.. she wants to fall in it (ever wonder why they call it falling into love?).

Back off, stop talking to her. If she initiates contact, tell her maybe some other time. If she attempts again, go for it, but don't be so needy as you have been. The idea here is to make the woman needy for you.
 

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you have to read some stuff. I knew from the beginning of your post how it would end. Don't ever suggest a relationship. Don't tell you will always keep pursuing her, ever again. Have a lot of plates. Someone will probably write better answer, but all your questions are answer in the DJ Bible! (And it's not called a bible for nothing)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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