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Well done but i wouldn't touch this one even for banging, it's not worth the effort. She's a certified crazy slvt and it will be just a question of time before she messes with your life in some way. Drop it like it's hot.So an update for anybody following. I gave it some time, and decided to circle around. I agree with "ok", and have used that a lot. But I rationalized too much and thought I'd send a two liner trying to coax her into talking. That was 48 hrs ago. No answer. Yes I know against the playbook.
So conclusions: I like this woman all around. But we're done. I still don't know her deal and never will. Chalk it up to high iois failing to predict the future. Get better at reading them.
Took a new woman out. A very tight little skinny blonde willing to have me over in the middle of the apocalypse. Lower iois but she's blowing up my phone now. Probably because I don't really want anything to do with her. During our "date" she talked about various people stalking her, taking money off her ex, and how she doesn't get along with people. She also downed about ten shots of hard liquor and smoked weed the entire time. I don't smoke and I drank water. I bolted at 1030. She's really really attractive but I'm too old to stick my dk in crazy. Plus she didn't even seem impaired. FM I couldn't make this up if I wanted to.
So here's the plan.
Cancelled match until this crap is over.
Self improve, job, fitness, running start when the world opens.
Raise my standards, I've seen what I want. Now I know they're out there. It's not about lays, it's about quality.
And maybe bang the crazy blonde. Mutters NO BAD ALBATROSS.
Her "I think we are moving too fast" was a false take-away. Women do this to see if you really like them. At some point, you failed to show attainability when she opened up to you. You were too concerned with how much she liked you. You were too caught up in your own ego. This is a common mistake that can easily be rectified. The first half of game is being high value. But the second half is expressing attainability. You do this through expressing genuine interest and appreciation for her unique self and rewarding her for her efforts to open up to you. Failure to do this and she will close up and retract her interest in you.So I ditched the attention whre from my other thread. I've seen five women this month. But it raised a question maybe you can answer. One these women is about forty, divorced, athletic. From what I can see, all her IOIs are high. We had our third date in two weeks last night. Constant IOIs. Drives out of her way. Touchy feelly. Texts me easily twice what I do. Anyway, third date at my place, I make dinner and later I drag her into my room for three hours. The sex is good, not perfect but we're figuring things out. We're both happy, I think she had about 900 orgasms. We're laying there before she leaves just laughing and talking and she said some things that strike me as odd. Like it's confession time. "I never loved my husband" "I have these stretch marks" "I destroyed your bed" (she did if you follow). I listened but didn't really make a big deal of any of it.
She leaves happy, all IOIs. I'm thinking she'd make a great plate. She's insatiable.
This morning after good morning, I get the "we're moving too fast, I'm not feeling it" text. I responded "no pressure, you know where I am"
Now too questions. She turned on a dime. Why? Do you see a way to recover? Because my gut tells me take the sex as a win.... your princess is in another castle.
And why the confessions? I've seen this from other women. Is it self loathing? Are they looking for me to disqualify them so they don't have to end things? Why do her actions to this point say YES and now her words say no?
Sorry, I know these are bush league questions, take the sex and move on.
Usually when I post something of that magnitude, it's to address a universal issue. What's personal is universal. Most guys have the same sticking points. Including myself. I used to be that over-protective guy where the chick would give me 1000 ioi's and I would be like "Where's the 1001st ioi?" And then I would go backwards everytime the woman wanted to seek rapport and connection. Eventually she leaves me for another guy but makes sure I see it so that I realized what I missed out on.Thanks Stormrider, I just read your post like 7x. You gave me a lot to think about and writing 1200 words to help out a complete stranger speaks volumes about your character.. I appreciate the effort from all you guys.
You're right my posts aren't really complete. I didn't really get into why I like her with you guys. Truth be told, when she was around I found myself standing on the brakes holding back with her. I guess I do need to work on that natural balance. We were laying in bed last week and as she's talking about her stretch marks, I replied "I don't care about them, we all have scars. I'm glad I met you". This was my awkward, post sex guard down response that I cringed at when I thought about it later.
Your post has given me a lot to think about. No longer in just what to say but more importantly how to say it. And how to back it up with real belief in my own mind.
And now crazy is texting again...
I do however that to make this work once must have achieved inner harmony. He knows his desires and works with purpose to achieve them, feelings, thought and actions are congruent with another. This is high level and goes way above most of us their heads.I frame myself as the source of validation. I don't need her validation. There is nothing she can give me that I haven't already given myself. In a sense, I am my own self-sustaining eco-system. And women are part of that eco-system.