"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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georgie24

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ok i was in a 3 year realtionship with a girl with severe bi-polar disorder ect. now 3 months post break up and i feel low in the dumps. im only 28 and i know i should be on the top of my game but im not. what do you guys who are expereinced suggest i do? i have some small short term goals like fixing up my car (finally) and then getting a gym mebership and work out ALOT.
this girl really took a chunk out of me, if anyone is familiar with bipolarism knows what im talking about.

sorry guys if a majority of my posts are about this b.s. but its over now and its time to heal and rebuild:D

bachelor for ever!!!!!!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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bi-polar disorder
:rolleyes:

Come on, why do you go for psycho chicks?

They'll give you a lot of headaches!!!
 

georgie24

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it kinda just happend with this girl. i missed all the warining signs and flags. belive me i will never go through this again
 

georgie24

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Originally posted by Vercingetorix777
Hey I'm severe bi-polar. I know a lot about it if you have any questions post.
when i leave her she calls me groveling and crying and seems like she's on the verge of a nervous breakdown, so my question is.. is she crying for me? or is she crying because she's alone?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Vercingetorix777

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Bi-polar people have the habit of falling in love very deeply very early. It's hard for us to tell the depth of a relationship, we tend to think it's a lot deeper then it maybe. In other words yes there's a good chance she's crying cause she feels in love with you. Now borderline personality disorder tends to overlap a lot with bi-polar, borderline ppl are more likely to cry over feelings of abandonment. She could be both but I'm leaning towards she really likes you. I need some more information to be certain.
 
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