"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Red Sox Example Of Good DJing

BramhaBull60

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I have read some great posts here on the DJ site about baseball and how it is interlinked to DJ skills, and I have to say that I hit upon something during the Red Sox/ Yankees ALCS championship game that I think explains how I have improved my dating life, and myself professionally( I am in marketing and sales, the definitive DJ skills position lol)

For those who lived under a rock the past week or two, the Red Sox capped the most amazing comeback in Baseball History by beating the Yankees, who were ahead of the Sox by three games and were and 1 out away from being swept 4-0. How did the Sox comeback? The basic answer is that they never took the losses too seriously. They knew they were good, knew they would get the game back, and in the end humiliated the greatest sports franchise in history. You never saw the players or coach throw a temper tantrum when the chips were down, insult each other, insult the fans, or blame the umpires for bad calls. They just stuck it out, kept playing their game, and ended up on top.

How does this relate to DJ skills? Well as males we tend to get bent out of shape by one or multiple rejections. We scream, yell, pout, and eventually give up. What does this accomplish? One more night alone with Mary and five lovely friends. I have found that if you just don’t let rejection get to you, and act cool, calm, and assured when you next a girl, that your mind is clear, you come off confident, and live a much more stress free life as a result. Don’t treat every loss like the end of the world, because the odds always swing back your way in the end. We all go in slumps, and face near elimination, but the good teams, and the good men, fight to play another day.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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ImpatientFire

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Very uplifting post. Helped me a lot (I'm just recovering from three multiple rejections). I won't let it put me down because I know deep down that I'm the man :) .
 

InsidiousNstinct

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I really HATE the redsox, or any team from that area, especially the pats.

Good post though:D
 
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