Red Flags???

[Metalhead83]

Ok so Ive been dating this girl for about two months. Shes 25. Within the first week we started having sex. We had been seeing each other almost every day and were supposed to go on a date one night, she flaked and I did not hear from her until the next day. She had started to act weird up until this point. So I told her we needed time apart and to figure out what she wanted between us .

It was about a week until we started hanging out. So now we're seeing each other almost every day again (I know I should limit my contact with her) and I feel like shes starting the same behavior. Recently she admitted to me shes an alcoholic and I know this is a huge problem. But I have feelings for this girl which I usually dont have after two months.

Last night I tried having sex with her and Id get a couple of kisses and she would push me away. She has been acting like this for about a week, not showing as much affection but not as bad as before. I asked her what was wrong and I was told she did not know. So I asked what the hell that meant and she told me honestly it was the alcohol. Which doesnt make sense to me because she drinks everyday and we had been having sex almost every day. I tried to pass out and she takes my hand and puts it on her boob. Im like alright! This is more like it. SO I tried to go at it with her and the same thing happens she pushes me away and tells me shes tired. I tell her that the relationship isnt just about sex and not to test me . She tells me it shouldnt be. So thats how the night ended.

I always get these mixed signals from her. I know she has trust issues because shes been cheated on a lot. She always opens up when shes drunk and tells me she wants to be with me blah blah. But I dont know how much of that crap to believe. My question is really what should I do? Should I not see her as much? Is she scared and trying to see if the relationship is just about sex?

BTW this is my first post and this site rocks :rockon:

 

[nubian-knight]

Dude red flags or not if she has a drinking problem, you are not going to want to stick around

Even if you care for her, that makes it worse


Alcoholics have mood swings, will cause random fights and shes more likely to bang some other dude

Dont bother with it

 

[jdon23]

Drop this one.. 1) She is playing games and 2) She's an alcoholic

I can hear a future phone call..

"OH METALHEAD83 IT WAS AWFUL, I WAS SO DRUNK AND HE TOOK ADVANTAGE OF ME! IT WAS THE ALCOHOL!! I WAS DRUNK IT DIDN'T MEAN ANYTHING I PROMISE"

and by then you're oneitis will have developed to a stage where this lame ass excuse will work on you.

This is not acceptable. Don't settle for a woman who makes a daily habit of drinking. It's bad news.


Also, next time a woman pulls the "im tired" and keeps rejecting your advances, I want you to pull ALL of your attention away from her. If that means getting up and leaving, then DO it! Showing that you don't need her will only make her more drawn to you.

 

[Metalhead83]

Also, next time a woman pulls the "im tired" and keeps rejecting your advances, I want you to pull ALL of your attention away from her. If that means getting up and leaving, then DO it! Showing that you don't need her will only make her more drawn to you.

I did pull away from her. I just rolled over and ignored when she was talking to me. Then she took my hand and put it on her boob. I knew it was games the whole time but I was thinking with the wrong head. I had severe oneitis over her for a while, I still do a little. Im gonna give her a couple days with no contact. If things keep getting worse the end is near for sure.

 

[sodbuster]

With the whole hand on boob thing-it means go-she meant stop? Games-end it now.