Just wondering if anyone knew of any strategies for 'recycling old numbers' - i.e., recycling old numbers on your cell phone you haven't called in a while - # closes that have flaked, or that you never got together with for some reason.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Recycling old numbers
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I sent this txt out to a girl I was emailing w from the personals for a while. We never got together but we were sort of making vague plans. I'm not sure who lost interest - I started to see this one girl a lot, and I stopped contacting her. She never bothered to follow up with me either.
'just wanted 2 say hi - hope yall had a great holiday, give me a call sometime when you have a chance'
she texted back 'who is this? number doesn't show up'
i reply 'da_hunter - if i surprised u and u do not want to hear from me i apologize. i just sent a txt to cool people on my phone i haven't talked to in a while'
she texts back 'no worries! hope you had a great holiday!'
I'm wondering if I can do the same thing with a girl I # closed in August but flaked.
'just wanted 2 say hi - hope yall had a great holiday, give me a call sometime when you have a chance'
she texted back 'who is this? number doesn't show up'
i reply 'da_hunter - if i surprised u and u do not want to hear from me i apologize. i just sent a txt to cool people on my phone i haven't talked to in a while'
she texts back 'no worries! hope you had a great holiday!'
I'm wondering if I can do the same thing with a girl I # closed in August but flaked.
a few that ive called had boyfriends by then, most of them were like 6 months. I tried to track down one girl that i never hooked up with, just dated a few times, and it was about 4 years. Turns out while i was being tortured by a prude for 3 years, she became a meth head. Nice. She was fukkin hot too. Sad.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
yea, it can work. only if they remember you or u stand out in some way. i've gone as long as two months without talking to a girl after a while, and when i decide to hit them up again, they are as open and interested as they ever were.da_hunter said:you think it is a valid technique for ones you haven't gone out with yet?
and if so - how far back would you go? six months? or older?
if they say,"who is this" than forget it, they dont remember you or hold u in high enough regard to keep ur number in the first place. u cant rebuit attraction with someone who u doesnt remember you.
it helps if u talked to them a couples times or have had something going with them at least before u try to recycle the number, they remember u more that way, instead of if u got the number and never called.
Try this.
"Hi Cleopatra this is Jay Jay. I have your number in my phone but the funny thing is I don't know any Cleopatras. What is your number doing in my phone?"
"Jay Jay, its meeeeeeee."
I've seen my boy *** pull that off with a girl he hadn't spoken to in over a year...
but then again I have walked into parties with him and watch him throw a girl he has never met over his shoulder without saying a word, take her into a room and **** her brains out and she loved him for it.
I've sat by his side when he said to a 10, "blow my friend" (not me) and shes said "anything for you ***."
So what works for *** doesn't work for everyone.
But you might as well give it a go.
JJ
"Hi Cleopatra this is Jay Jay. I have your number in my phone but the funny thing is I don't know any Cleopatras. What is your number doing in my phone?"
"Jay Jay, its meeeeeeee."
I've seen my boy *** pull that off with a girl he hadn't spoken to in over a year...
but then again I have walked into parties with him and watch him throw a girl he has never met over his shoulder without saying a word, take her into a room and **** her brains out and she loved him for it.
I've sat by his side when he said to a 10, "blow my friend" (not me) and shes said "anything for you ***."
So what works for *** doesn't work for everyone.
But you might as well give it a go.
JJ