Just wondering if anyone knew of any strategies for 'recycling old numbers' - i.e., recycling old numbers on your cell phone you haven't called in a while - # closes that have flaked, or that you never got together with for some reason.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Recycling old numbers
- Thread starter da_hunter
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
I sent this txt out to a girl I was emailing w from the personals for a while. We never got together but we were sort of making vague plans. I'm not sure who lost interest - I started to see this one girl a lot, and I stopped contacting her. She never bothered to follow up with me either.
'just wanted 2 say hi - hope yall had a great holiday, give me a call sometime when you have a chance'
she texted back 'who is this? number doesn't show up'
i reply 'da_hunter - if i surprised u and u do not want to hear from me i apologize. i just sent a txt to cool people on my phone i haven't talked to in a while'
she texts back 'no worries! hope you had a great holiday!'
I'm wondering if I can do the same thing with a girl I # closed in August but flaked.
'just wanted 2 say hi - hope yall had a great holiday, give me a call sometime when you have a chance'
she texted back 'who is this? number doesn't show up'
i reply 'da_hunter - if i surprised u and u do not want to hear from me i apologize. i just sent a txt to cool people on my phone i haven't talked to in a while'
she texts back 'no worries! hope you had a great holiday!'
I'm wondering if I can do the same thing with a girl I # closed in August but flaked.
a few that ive called had boyfriends by then, most of them were like 6 months. I tried to track down one girl that i never hooked up with, just dated a few times, and it was about 4 years. Turns out while i was being tortured by a prude for 3 years, she became a meth head. Nice. She was fukkin hot too. Sad.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
yea, it can work. only if they remember you or u stand out in some way. i've gone as long as two months without talking to a girl after a while, and when i decide to hit them up again, they are as open and interested as they ever were.da_hunter said:you think it is a valid technique for ones you haven't gone out with yet?
and if so - how far back would you go? six months? or older?
if they say,"who is this" than forget it, they dont remember you or hold u in high enough regard to keep ur number in the first place. u cant rebuit attraction with someone who u doesnt remember you.
it helps if u talked to them a couples times or have had something going with them at least before u try to recycle the number, they remember u more that way, instead of if u got the number and never called.
Try this.
"Hi Cleopatra this is Jay Jay. I have your number in my phone but the funny thing is I don't know any Cleopatras. What is your number doing in my phone?"
"Jay Jay, its meeeeeeee."
I've seen my boy *** pull that off with a girl he hadn't spoken to in over a year...
but then again I have walked into parties with him and watch him throw a girl he has never met over his shoulder without saying a word, take her into a room and **** her brains out and she loved him for it.
I've sat by his side when he said to a 10, "blow my friend" (not me) and shes said "anything for you ***."
So what works for *** doesn't work for everyone.
But you might as well give it a go.
JJ
"Hi Cleopatra this is Jay Jay. I have your number in my phone but the funny thing is I don't know any Cleopatras. What is your number doing in my phone?"
"Jay Jay, its meeeeeeee."
I've seen my boy *** pull that off with a girl he hadn't spoken to in over a year...
but then again I have walked into parties with him and watch him throw a girl he has never met over his shoulder without saying a word, take her into a room and **** her brains out and she loved him for it.
I've sat by his side when he said to a 10, "blow my friend" (not me) and shes said "anything for you ***."
So what works for *** doesn't work for everyone.
But you might as well give it a go.
JJ