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My girlfriend dumped me a couple weeks ago. It seems that during our relationship I lost contact with all the girls that I used to speak with. Ive gone to the bars and got a couple numbers but It doesn’t seem super promising. I don’t know how to meet new girls that I can date. Help please
 

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It sounds like you're trying to force something that isn't there right now. You've to give yourself the time it takes and not pressure yourself. I guess everyone's different but for me, meeting new women that soon after, i just can't be myself and have all my thoughts on the ex.
Time will heal, keep yourself occupied with passions and hobbies instead, why rush after new ones when you're in a vulnerable state? You will know when you're ready.
 

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Bcude nailed it. Forget about women for awhile. Right now, whether you realize it or not, you will be in a thirsty state, emotionally.

Get busy with hobbies, and GROUP activities. Get out amongst friends in group activities. Once the pain eases in a few months, you will be in a much better position to meet someone, and the group activities will have given you a head start
 

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I acted jealous but didn’t accuse her before we broke up. But I felt like she was hiding things. So used the dread game. Than she flew off the handle accusing me. When she dumped me same day went into another relationship. She tried to hide it but I was able to figure it out. She pushed hard for me not to talk to other women I don’t know why someone would do this. I always thought if you want to date someone else you break up with the person you’re seeing then pursue that avenue. But She was obviously with this guy before we broke up. I think I’m dealing with it pretty well. Have been eating decent, working out in the gym. But I need to figure out how to re-activate my social life after this happened.
 
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I acted jealous but didn’t accuse her before we broke up. But I felt like she was hiding things. So used the dread game. Than she flew off the handle accusing me. When she dumped me same day went into another relationship. She tried to hide it but I was able to figure it out. She pushed hard for me not to talk to other women I don’t know why someone would do this.
Yeah it's mostly always like this at the end.
 

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I acted jealous but didn’t accuse her before we broke up. But I felt like she was hiding things. So used the dread game. Than she flew off the handle accusing me. If she flew off the handle....she was projecting. She already had something on the go and so accused you of it.
When she dumped me same day went into another relationship. And the other shoe drops She tried to hide it but I was able to figure it out. Monkey Branching She pushed hard for me not to talk to other women I don’t know why someone would do this. Wants you as a fall back option in case the new guy doesn't work out. DENY her this. Keep your self-respect. I always thought if you want to date someone else you break up with the person you’re seeing then pursue that avenue. Not these days....and with women, rarely ever. They always line up a replacement (not always, often) . That is the Monley Branching. But She was obviously with this guy before we broke up. I think I’m dealing with it pretty well. Have been eating decent, working out in the gym. But I need to figure out how to re-activate my social life after this happened.

You are doing awesome. Don't rush things
 

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She told me let’s be friend lol. I didn’t agreeAnd got suspicious browsing her Facebook page of another guy that she’d been posting on his a lot and he hers. Because I noticed him a couple days before and his status was single. Then right after she broke up with me I checked it and it was in a relationship but didn’t say who to. Its like I could just feel it so I deleted her off my Facebook and quit talking to her. I checked yesterday just out of curiosity and he was in a relationship with her. So that was it for me. I’m super glad I made the decision I did rather than engaging in some “im your friend” beta cuckery. If I had of agreed it would have felt much worse. Instead I’ve already been healing from it because I didn’t agree. But I don’t think I’ll trust another girl again after this
 
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She just messaged me “hey how are you”. She must think I’m real stupid or something. Too bad she’s such a pos given her hotness level
 
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She just messaged me “hey how are you”. She must think I’m real stupid or something. Too bad she’s such a pos given her hotness level
She might have messaged you, but she is really asking herself the questions - not you. You are just the lifeless object matter she uses to answer her own selfcentered questions, like a piece of experimental material.

She is asking herself this: "Will this guy give me the validation I crave by putting effort into talking to or trying to see me, and taking me seriously? Can I keep him as an orbiter feeding me validation, entertainment and comfort?"

I would suggest doing what LA85 said, unless you want to and have the emotional control to keep her as a booty call.
 
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Block her on everything. She is now DEAD TO YOU.
 
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She just messaged me “hey how are you”. She must think I’m real stupid or something. Too bad she’s such a pos given her hotness level
DO NOT REPLY. She is trying to give you false hope and recruit you as an orbiter.

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She might have messaged you, but she is really asking herself the questions - not you. You are just the lifeless object matter she uses to answer her own selfcentered questions, like a piece of experimental material.

She is asking herself this: "Will this guy give me the validation I crave by putting effort into talking to or trying to see me, and taking me seriously? Can I keep him as an orbiter feeding me validation, entertainment and comfort?"

I would suggest doing what LA85 said, unless you want to and have the emotional control to keep her as a booty call.
She’s only good for phucking. So I message her back five hours later and say. “Meh. Just hanging out with friends”. She responds instantly “cool” “what’s new”. Then I haven’t responded again. Lol. She already tried to make me an orbiter with the whole friendzoning. I didn’t take the bait which seemed to surprise her. But I was also too much of a nice guy. I’ve successfully detached emotionally. So now I’m just going to **** her up. She can be my female orbiter.
 
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She’s only good for phucking. So I message her back five hours later and say. “Meh. Just hanging out with friends”. She responds instantly “cool” “what’s new”. Then I haven’t responded again. Lol. She already tried to make me an orbiter with the whole friendzoning. I didn’t take the bait which seemed to surprise her. But I was also too much of a nice guy. I’ve successfully detached emotionally. So now I’m just going to **** her up. She can be my female orbiter.
Nah, you're kidding yourself.
 

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She’s only good for phucking. But you aren't. And won't be unless the new guy doesn't work out. Have some self-respect. So I message her back five hours later and say. “Meh. Just hanging out with friends”. Mistake She responds instantly “cool” “what’s new”. She is doing two things - trying to assuage her guilt and trying to keep you on the hook in case the new guy doesn't work out. You are accommodating both these things Then I haven’t responded again. Lol. She already tried to make me an orbiter with the whole friendzoning. I didn’t take the bait which seemed to surprise her. But I was also too much of a nice guy. I’ve successfully detached emotionally. So now I’m just going to **** her up. She can be my female orbiter.

You are making her your female orbiter?? She just broke up with you, but you are still responding to her. You are rewarding her bad behavior with your attention.

If you REALLY want to hurt her (and I know you do)...…………DISAPPEAR…...get in the gym and build a better body. Ignore all texts from her. Start dating other women with your new found gym confidence.

If it were me, next time she texted I would politely say "Listen, I think it's best if we don't communicate. You made your choice, go enjoy it"

Some her will say that sounds "butthurt". My take is, why would you care how it sounds to someone who dumped you? She made her choice, you "weren't good enough" Fine, if I am not "good enough" don't contact me. I have more important things to do than communicate with you...…….that would be my mindset.
 
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