"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Reconnected with an old oneitis.. This b!tch is crazy.

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Okay, in all fairness I already knew she was crazy going into it. But still, sh!t like this is stupid..

Went out with her on Wed, had a lot of fun
Texted the next day saying I had fun and that we should hang out again soon
She responded saying she had a good time as well and agreed about hanging out again soon
Text today about going out next Wed - no response

Lol what is wrong with women these days?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Why are you bothering to "reconnect" with an old oneitis in the first place? You know full well that to do so is ussually a completely useless endeavor, only leads to the reopening of old wounds. Im assuming you had some kind of relationship with this woman in the past. The pool has been pissed in. Leave it behind and find someone else.
 

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Serg897 said:
Why are you bothering to "reconnect" with an old oneitis in the first place? You know full well that to do so is ussually a completely useless endeavor, only leads to the reopening of old wounds. Im assuming you had some kind of relationship with this woman in the past. The pool has been pissed in. Leave it behind and find someone else.
Mainly because I got over her and now realize what her "game" is. Plus I'm attracted to her.

But you are right haha.

bigneil said:
You texted first the next day too?
Yes.
 

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Mainly because I got over her and now realize what her "game" is. Plus I'm attracted to her.
That doesn't mean you know how to play it. Texting right away, and then again, the very next day, with this "game player" chick only did one thing, it told her that you are willing and ready to be her standby. So she put you on the shelf for later.

The problem. You never made her work for it. You immediately showed her that you were back and ready to play her game.

These kind of chicks need to wonder. Need to work it. Else they just pull this ****e, right away.

Your only move now, do nothing.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Women thrive on the tension of wondering if a guy likes them or not. It's chick crack. Nuff said.

Johnny, just caught your msg above that says the same thing. I'll leave this for emphasis.
 

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Johnnyventana said:
That doesn't mean you know how to play it. Texting right away, and then again, the very next day, with this "game player" chick only did one thing, it told her that you are willing and ready to be her standby. So she put you on the shelf for later.

The problem. You never made her work for it. You immediately showed her that you were back and ready to play her game.

These kind of chicks need to wonder. Need to work it. Else they just pull this ****e, right away.

Your only move now, do nothing.
At the same time I've f*cked myself over by "letting the girl wonder" and have had success with other women by letting them know I'm interested.
 

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At the same time I've f*cked myself over by "letting the girl wonder" and have had success with other women by letting them know I'm interested.
I hear ya, but that is why this kind of chick sucks arse. They are in some sort of opposite world. And your natural instincts just don't fly with them. You keep doing the same thing over and over, yet expect different results. You expect her to be normal. She's not.

The best quote on this is that, "Scandalous girls are good at what they do because they don't know that they are doing it." i.e. She does not follow the same social norms as you. You have seen what being nice and normal with her gets you. Stop repeating history to your detriment.
 
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