"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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recommended books on body language?

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I've decided that I need to understand body language. What are your favorite books on this topic?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Get a DVD set called "Body Language For Attracting Women" (David deAngelo), good information there.
 
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Buy a book on body language? It isnt hard. Google body language, search here for body language and you are set. there is no big test that you have to take. You want to learn some of the stuff in the field and most of the stuff is overkill
 
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Bat said:
Get a DVD set called "Body Language For Attracting Women" (David deAngelo), good information there.
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Not looking to drop that kinda money that a DVD set from the professional PUAs are gonna charge. A simple book will do. I know there's a lot out there. Just wondering what are some of the favs of DJs on this board.
 
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I have a couple of books on body language that I ordered off Amazon, because I am often told I often have a look of disdain and disinterest and that I never recognize when girls are interested.

Both books were pretty much filler, not worth the price.

Pretty much everything that was in them was also on the web. As someone said earlier, just type "body language" and "flirting" on Google and you'll find enough to get you by.

Body language is problematic, anyhow. After I'd read those books I tried to apply them by reading the language of the girls around me... and found that so much of it has to do with the girl themself. Shy girls might be very subtle or conflicted with their movements and positions, while others might throw off signals left and right because they don't know what they're doing.

But once you a better feel for the individual girl's personality, it gets easier.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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do you really want to waste your money? Here are some of the best
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=91907&highlight=body+language

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=37708&highlight=body+language

http://www.pickupguide.com/layguide/bodylanguage.htm

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=50945&highlight=body+language


http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=91907&highlight=body+language

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=83028&highlight=body+language

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=101022&highlight=body+language

http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
 
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