"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Recognize Self Loathing

Alive123

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How often do you guys think about the past, regret missed opportunities, or compare yourself to others? How often do you beat yourself up? How critical are you of yourself? How often do you worry about the future?

Today I realized I have a continuous soap opera going on in my brain. Sometimes I totally get absorbed into loathing myself, I become crazy and unconscious.

I'm making it a goal, day to day, to catch myself whenever I feel any type of self hatred or guilt floating around in my head. I'm not going to force the thoughts out, and I definitely won't feed into them. I'm simply going to recognize these thoughts as habit and let them go away.

Show some compassion to yourself, first and foremost. Stop beating yourself up. Success in every aspect of life starts with respecting yourself.

Give it a try, every day for the next 30 days. Make it a conscious effort to treat yourself with compassion. If you don't like how it feels, you can always go back to hating yourself :)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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lakeshore

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Alive123 said:
How often do you guys think about the past, regret missed opportunities, or compare yourself to others? How often do you beat yourself up? How critical are you of yourself? How often do you worry about the future?

Today I realized I have a continuous soap opera going on in my brain. Sometimes I totally get absorbed into loathing myself, I become crazy and unconscious.

I'm making it a goal, day to day, to catch myself whenever I feel any type of self hatred or guilt floating around in my head. I'm not going to force the thoughts out, and I definitely won't feed into them. I'm simply going to recognize these thoughts as habit and let them go away.

Show some compassion to yourself, first and foremost. Stop beating yourself up. Success in every aspect of life starts with respecting yourself.

Give it a try, every day for the next 30 days. Make it a conscious effort to treat yourself with compassion. If you don't like how it feels, you can always go back to hating yourself :)

Yeah man, don't get to down on yourself. If you know you screwed something up then make sure you learn something from it and then move on. I used to beat myself also but eventually you realize how stupid it is and how much it holds you back.
 

Julius_Seizeher

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Think of fear, doubt, jealousy, and all things negative, as the rough breakwater, ripe with riptides and undertow.

Picture yourself swimming beyond this soul-killing cacophony, in the clear waters of calmness, faith, strength, and all thoughts manly.

Also, there is no great a cure for self-loathing as ACTION taken towards great rewards.
 
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