"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Recent EX Is On POF? I Don't Think I'm Bothered

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So i've seen my EX's profile pop up on POF today.. It bothered me for around 10mins, then I didn't think much more of it.

Anyhow she ended it around 5 weeks ago, but I feel she did me a FAVOUR, as it was long distance, with no chance of being together, till she has raised her child who only just turned14.. The ex she has the kid with is also in the picture..

That's another 4-5 years of long distance. FUK THAT JAZZ.. I can't wait around on a woman for YEARS while she raises another mans DNA.


So it doesn't look like she branch swung to anyone.. She's put herself back on the market.


Anyway I'm going to stick with complete NC and continue down the path of improvement, better decision making & NEVER doing a LDR ever again!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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You read my OLD thread haven't you? She has no chance on OLD of meeting or going out on a date, unless she down grades her expectations quite a bit.

Yes mate... The fact that she is on POF she will just become a cvm dumpster.. This is the path she has chosen for herself.

Single mom, with kids and the ex in picture.. She doesn't even have a career, earns little money and her looks are dramatically fading.

Lost cause!
 

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It bound to happen, and it's only natural that it would bother you a bit. As long as your not losing sleep over it, your normal!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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It bound to happen, and it's only natural that it would bother you a bit. As long as your not losing sleep over it, your normal!
I'm pretty fine with it.. She is officially a cvm dumpster now.

It bothered me initially for a day or so, but now i'm OKAY with it.

This chick has fuk all to offer me in the shape of a relationship.. So let her get used and abused on POf.

This is the path she has chosen.
 

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I'm pretty fine with it.. She is officially a cvm dumpster now.

It bothered me initially for a day or so, but now i'm OKAY with it.

This chick has fuk all to offer me in the shape of a relationship.. So let her get used and abused on POf.

This is the path she has chosen.
Hey

Good that it did not bother you that much.

Just curious did she try to get in touch with you at all after break up?

No branch swinging is hard to believe Maybe it did not work out.
 

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I find it interesting when people say they don't care about something. Yet they went out of their way to post/comment on it which clearly shows they care to some extent.

Just something to think about.
 

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Hey

Good that it did not bother you that much.

Just curious did she try to get in touch with you at all after break up?

No branch swinging is hard to believe Maybe it did not work out.
Nope she made no contact at all.. I saw her profile lurking around on pof.

If she had branch swung, doubt she would be registering on POF

Or maybe the branch swing didn't workout for her.

I really doubt she will contact me in any way, because she KNOWS how ruthless I am, and I take zero chit from anyone.

She learned that in the two years she was with me, that is why she was always on good behaviour.

Instinctively she knows my door is forever closed to her now, and she knows she probably won't even get a reply back.

So I doubt she will make contact.

There is also probably a level of shame on her part, considering I was one of the guys who treated her well.
 

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You shouldn't be so harsh on your ex. She will write you or attempt to contact you in some shape or form, they always do. Saying no in whatever way you say it does nothing productive to you, it doesn't even properly ego boost your ass. You gotta punish, make her suck you off, and keep her there in that sex buddy booty call when you got nothing else zone forever.

 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You shouldn't be so harsh on your ex. She will write you or attempt to contact you in some shape or form, they always do.
Not for me they fvcking don't. Or maybe that's just a Chad-thing for some exes. If she branch swinged then that pretty much disqualifies that.

backseatjuan said:
Saying no in whatever way you say it does nothing productive to you, it doesn't even properly ego boost your ass. You gotta punish, make her suck you off, and keep her there in that sex buddy booty call when you got nothing else zone forever.
It shows that he has self-respect and doesn't want to be sloppy seconds to some dude she branch swing with that rejected her.
 

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Nope she made no contact at all.. I saw her profile lurking around on pof.

If she had branch swung, doubt she would be registering on POF

Or maybe the branch swing didn't workout for her.

I really doubt she will contact me in any way, because she KNOWS how ruthless I am, and I take zero chit from anyone.

She learned that in the two years she was with me, that is why she was always on good behaviour.

Instinctively she knows my door is forever closed to her now, and she knows she probably won't even get a reply back.

So I doubt she will make contact.

There is also probably a level of shame on her part, considering I was one of the guys who treated her well.
This is what happened. The new man (or ex) wasn't great so now she's in search and destroy mode. I feel bad for women like this (most women). They are fully incapable of being on their own and being reflective. They MUST have a man in their life for validation. If she branch swung, that means she was cheating on you in the relationship (emotionally, physically, or both). Says a lot more about her than you.
 

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This is what happened. The new man (or ex) wasn't great so now she's in search and destroy mode. I feel bad for women like this (most women). They are fully incapable of being on their own and being reflective. They MUST have a man in their life for validation. If she branch swung, that means she was cheating on you in the relationship (emotionally, physically, or both). Says a lot more about her than you.
Either way i'm glad to be rid of it now.. If she is already on POF doubt she has fuk all going on anywhere.. Woman with options or something good going on dating wise, don't hang around on POF.. Desperately searching for a saviour or seeking attention.
 

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This should serve as a warning to you - think twice before getting involved with single mommies as they possess the largest red flag possible.
 

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This should serve as a warning to you - think twice before getting involved with single mommies as they possess the largest red flag possible.
Without a doubt.. Single Moms, especially with the Childs father in the picture.. Avoid at all cost.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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