"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Receiving Compliments

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I get alot of compliments from women. Especially about my hair, and my shoes. Usually, when I get compliments I say thanks and then continue with a conversation. I was wondering if there are any better responses to compliments?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Interpol

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You can always make a joke about it...

Her: I love you hair!
You: Please, you think you're the only girl who's told me that?

Make sure she can tell you're kidding though, or you could really sound like an *******.
 

Luscious

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If you get an unsolicitied compliment from a woman, it's a good sign. She's trying to show some interest, if somewhat discreetly.

I usually always begin with "thank you..." and then lead in from there.

You could go many places from there. Bust on her for 'hitting on you so obviously' (and watch her blush).

The possibilities are limitless. If she compliments something like your shirt, just lead it into something like 'the fabric feels nice too, here, try' and have her touch it.

If she compliments YOU first, you don't need to exhibit a whole lot of tact in leading the next part of the conversation. She's shown that she's interested, so you need to show your interest in return - but there is very little risk of rejection.
 

NotaGoatLover

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Girls giving compliments is one of the BEST ways to get a conversation going...... you can just turn the whole convo around...

Her: Nice Hair
You: I'm not sleeping with you......

You can do so many things with compliments....
 

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Is that all I am to you... a sexy head of hair and a flashy pair of shoes? I have feelings - you know. Im not some piece of meat, or some damn sex toy!

Say it with a straight face for an amazing laugh and some skyrocketed interest.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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TonyTheTigerOI

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Her: Nice Hair
You: I'm not sleeping with you......


Dont say your not sleeping with her. Thats no fun and its not what EITHER of you want to hear. Just let her know shes going to have to WORK if she wants to sleep with you.
 

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Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
Her: Nice Hair
You: I'm not sleeping with you......


Dont say your not sleeping with her. Thats no fun and its not what EITHER of you want to hear. **Just let her know shes going to have to WORK if she wants to sleep with you.**
My point Exactly!
 

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Originally posted by TonyTheTigerOI
Her: Nice Hair
You: I'm not sleeping with you......


Dont say your not sleeping with her. Thats no fun and its not what EITHER of you want to hear. Just let her know shes going to have to WORK if she wants to sleep with you.
Yeah, if you are explicit by saying that, you shot yourself in the foot. If you say something like, "Don't think complimenting me is going to get me to sleep with you" That implies her to try harder and it is already assumed she wants you.
 
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