received ultimatum from my girl

[thelunatic]

Whats up people? Ill start off by saying ive been dating this21yo hb9 milf for a year and a half now.(im 21) Her kid just turned three and is generally annoying. The kid is in custody of her mother right now so the most he comes around is one maybe two times a week for an afternoon ususally. Her mom has just petitioned for full custody of the kid and she goes ape**** trying to keep him( bear in mind she has been completely comfortable only seeing him 3 days out of the month before this) I love her and she definitely loves me. I generally dont try to hang out with them while they are together simply to allow some bonding time and keep myself from being bored as @$!#. Since the beginning of the relationship i made it very clear to her i would be no daddy, no playmate, and no babysitter. A couple weeks ago she threw me an ultimatum that if i wasnt going to accept her kid and make them both happy then she was going to break up with me.

Ive still been banging her in this couple weeks, and she asking me if im banging anyone else or talking to. Asks me why i took our pictures down and even moved them from my bedroom drawer to my fridge. The past few nights have been good, going out and drinking together, cruising around town, hanging w mutual friends. But today she referred to me as her ex. To which i replied "as long as i know whats going on" and then drove off and left her at her work. Can you give me advice on what course of action i should take with my preference of staying together in mind?

 

[old_skoolr]

Leave her and run, youve had your fun.

Let someone else play baby daddy.

 

[Thorninmyside]

Abort. You had your go with sloppy teen mom, but it's madness to be forced into being step dad when you're still a kid yourself. Go and enjoy life before some bird weighs you down like an anchor.

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

Run !!!! As fast as you can!!!

-Augustus-

 

[Cremasta]

The majority of 21 year old guys are not in the right headspace to be a father to someone else's kid, and by your own admission, you're in that majority.
The fact that the kid is in her mother's custody has major red flags all over it. If you stay with this girl, you are stepping into a warzone.

Also, if anyone gives me an ultimatum, I will generally take the 'or else' on principle. If she is willing to throw away the relationship so easily, why shouldn't you?

My advice to you is... change your preference.

 

[blind_one]

Eject Asap

 

[GS750]

Single fathers should date single mothers. Find a chick with no baggage and none of this drama.

 

[Masculinity]

Dating a girl who got pregnant at 17 is the mistake here. She did you a favor by calling you her ex. Now you can go out and meet higher quality women.

 

[BrainDamage92]

well your name is fitting... yes hipocracy still mine is more legit and I dont pull stunts like these. Dont be so desperado, find a girl who is not "second hand" as a friend of mine says.

 

[RangerMIke]

When a woman lays down an ultimatum, you MUST dump her. Otherwise you'll be attached to a control freak.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I don't see the ultimatum she dumped you by refering to you as her "ex".

You got 99 problems but a single mommy isn't 1!

Dude no brainer, RUN!