That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Yeah, basically we were not really that compatible with each other, and she was a little immature. Sexually we worked out very well, but I think in other areas, our interests just did not coincide much at all. It's difficult to even be friends with her because of this, unfortunately because in the end, we are both good people. What happened with yours?Originally posted by Jayer
Becker:
Do you mind sharing why you broke up with your girlfriend? I actually just broke up with mine, but it was bad because I couldn't keep my cool...
Maybe you can reply to my post.
DJ, you're right, it's always unpredictable. I'm supposed to do something with her this weekend. She's pretty down to earth from the time I've spent with her, so I'm giving her the benefit of the doubt. I wonder if I should even dive into the conversation of why her last relationship didn't work out.Originally posted by DJDamage
Becker you never know how this will end up. If her ex was a real jerk she will probably try to find a really nice guy as her next date because she probably vowed to never let guys like that get to her. Unfortuntly after she gets her self esteem back she will go right back after the unpredictable jerk/don juans out there.
Chicks often need/use 1 or 2 guys for a rebound after a difficult breakup. Treat her like you treat any other date by making sure you have other options if she decides to bail on you.