Reasons Women Leave

[zekko]

Here's an interesting video, shows how the reasons that women left LTRs (including marriages) have changed over time.

"Wouldn't let her work" was a big reason from the mid '60s to the mid '70s. Some men have/had pride that their wife didn't have to work, but I think a lot of them just didn't want to allow her the exposure to the outside world, meeting new people, or to lessen her dependence on him financially. Men were more controlling in those days. Now days I'm sure the second income is welcome, but I remember some guys on this forum saying their wife would never work. Not recently though.

"Physical abuse" was once a common problem, but it seems to have dropped off the chart completely by today. These days, men aren't going to get away with it.

"His toxic family" was a big reason that kind of surprised me, I didn't realize that was such a big problem.

"His drinking" is another reason that has dropped off the chart. "His porn addiction" popped up around the computer age, no surprise.

 

[The Duke]

Moral of the story: After all these years, women still care about your money or lack of! Every woman has a little "gold digger" in her no matter what they claim or how they behave.

So much for that wedding vow about "for richer, for poorer". LMAO

It's interesting that "cheating" moved around so much relative to the other reasons.

The older I get the more I realize long term commitment isn't about love and being the person the bible tells you to be. It's about what you can or can't do for the other person and her do for you. It's an exchange of offerings. When one stops meeting the conditions that were most likely never defined then the other gets mad and leaves.

LTR's and marriages need to be contract based with the conditions listed out. They are more about business than they are love and thats the reason I will never do marriage ever again. People are delusional, emotional, and not honest about the facts of the matter. And how does a marriage contract improve a relationship? How does it make one act any different? I've asked many women to answer those questions and none of them ever can.

The best and longest marriages I've seen always operated like a business and were always lacking on the romance(emotions, delusions, etc).

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Drinking/drug use is still a major issue from what I've seen, it's just become more almost "accepted" now until it reaches a point where it can't be dealt with anymore.

 

[Manure Spherian]

. And how does a marriage contract improve a relationship?

It’s actually not meant to do that, and never was.

 

[Fortune_favors_the_bold]

Moral of the story: After all these years, women still care about your money or lack of! Every woman has a little "gold digger" in her no matter what they claim or how they behave.

So much for that wedding vow about "for richer, for poorer". LMAO

It's interesting that "cheating" moved around so much relative to the other reasons.

The older I get the more I realize long term commitment isn't about love and being the person the bible tells you to be. It's about what you can or can't do for the other person and her do for you. It's an exchange of offerings. When one stops meeting the conditions that were most likely never defined then the other gets mad and leaves.

LTR's and marriages need to be contract based with the conditions listed out. They are more about business than they are love and thats the reason I will never do marriage ever again. People are delusional, emotional, and not honest about the facts of the matter. And how does a marriage contract improve a relationship? How does it make one act any different? I've asked many women to answer those questions and none of them ever can.

The best and longest marriages I've seen always operated like a business and were always lacking on the romance(emotions, delusions, etc).

The problem is that all the requirements on the man side are still demanded and enforced by the law, plus new ones in the last decade.

The ones from the woman side are almost totally removed plus extra priledges have been added instead.

If I was a law maker and wanted to destroy birthrate and even relationships, I couldnt find a better made law to reach the goal without having people figure it out.

 

[Doctor Europeo]

The best and longest marriages I've seen always operated like a business and were always lacking on the romance(emotions, delusions, etc).

This sounds very interesting. Could you elaborate and/or provide examples?

 

[pipeman84]

I think those are just pretexts for the 2 real reasons: 1. she lacks a minimal level of intelligence and/or 2. she's so insufferable that an average guy can't live with her.

Let's take physical abuse and drinking. Of course I wouldn't suggest a woman stays with a guy who beats her or who is a drunkard. BUT, let's be honest here: were there no signs before they got together that he's violent or he likes to abuse drinking? Sure there were, but she ignored them. The alternate situation is that he was just a normal guy and through her behavior (nagging, emasculating, being violent herself etc) she pushed him over the limit and he either became violent or started to 'drown his sorrows'. I'm not excusing the guy here, I'm just pointing out that things like these don't just happen in a vacuum.

Others in the list such as religious differences, toxic family or different backgrounds should be more than obvious that they are just excuses. How the heck do you even become a couple in the first place if you're not OK with such basic characteristics?

 

[CornbreadFed]

The older I get the more I realize long term commitment isn't about love and being the person the bible tells you to be. It's about what you can or can't do for the other person and her do for you. It's an exchange of offerings. When one stops meeting the conditions that were most likely never defined then the other gets mad and leaves.

It's like a sales job, your quota will always increase and they will only care about what you can do now and your future trajectory not what you did then.

 

[Ricky]

It's like a sales job, your quota will always increase and they will only care about what you can do now and your future trajectory not what you did then.

That’s the thing that always boggles my mind me about most women. When it comes to good things its what have you done for me lately and they don’t remember all the good you did.

but they remember absolutely anything bad you did forever