"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Reasons why rejection is superior to not approaching at all

Demystify

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1.You get accustomed to being rejected so it doesn't hurt as much
2.You know what NOT to say and you know how NOT to say things

Any other good reasons?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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trd323

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1) Not going home and wondering what if.... because this kills me when I do not know either way.

2) You are proud that you did and pat yourself on the back because I can tell you that she will be telling all her friends that a cool confident guy just told her that she was cute and all her friends are going crazy because it never happens to them, EVER.

3) You feel good that she did not throw her drink at you, slap you, kick you in the balls, etc. It gets approach anxiety to a lower level, kind of a warm up.

Everybody please talk to at least one girl a day and get the experience before going on here and giving advice right out of a book or bible.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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I'm going to add

4) Get closer to the women that will feel you and are right for you to fvck and/or date since ur filtering out the ones that don't like u

5) It might've not been meant to be. Rejection is God's Protection no matter how hot u think the girl is.

6) Get an acception down the line and will forget the rejection
 

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Here is another reason why not approaching is more painful that being rejected, I posted this thing in another threat but here is my oneitis story:

I was desperately attracted to my oneitis, I was clearly afraid to approach her, even when she was stalking me around through my life (it was extreme). Everywhere where she appeared she would tell everyone how annoying it was that I was SO sincere when I dared to talk to her. She was obsessed with the company I worked for and used me to get a job (during the interview she mentioned my name as reference and of course I licked my bosses balls to give her a chance). Once hired she immidiately started to spread rumours about me with my collegues...the funniest thing is that she left the company by herself after two weeks or so.

She put insane efford to appear in my life over and over again in all kinds of places.

Every time when I was flirting with other chicks or simply not paying attention she would become so mad at me that the next day she looked asif she had a sleepless night.

Yes, my oneitis turned me into a sissy emo boy and Im disgusted by myself when I think of it. it lasted for three years, and has cost me some mental health, depression and more.


what was her motivation ? what drives chicks to do that ? need to feel loved or attention ? To finally get rid off her I humiliated her and then asked her out, result: very rude rejection. I still feel I missed something and that I could have done better, but fear of rejection was incredibly strong.

Oneitis is a horrible desease, especially if attraction is extremely strong. Im still recovering, despite of having a few sex partners afterwards.
 

DonJoseCantosie

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Acq, wow man...some women really do act illogical and have big pride issues. lol.
But yea man, i think it had something to do with validation. validation is so important to girls that they'd rather do that, than have sex...can u believe that? They'd pass up something that feels pleasurable(Feels good for days) for something that gives a temporary ego for what? A Day? Hahaha
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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- You get into that DJ feeling fast. Enjoying any moment of life!!! ( Instead of being AFC)

- You also is the first person who is going to get invited to parties, because everybody knows that you are going to give your friends a good time because you are going to introduce them to many girls you meet later on that evening. ( you are not asking for a party,everybody else is inviting you)

And because you are the first who is approaching and leading your friends you are the alpha male automatically. ( Instead of being one of the AFC friends)
 
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