"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Reasons why rejection is superior to not approaching at all
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
2) You are proud that you did and pat yourself on the back because I can tell you that she will be telling all her friends that a cool confident guy just told her that she was cute and all her friends are going crazy because it never happens to them, EVER.
3) You feel good that she did not throw her drink at you, slap you, kick you in the balls, etc. It gets approach anxiety to a lower level, kind of a warm up.
Everybody please talk to at least one girl a day and get the experience before going on here and giving advice right out of a book or bible.
DonJoseCantosie
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4) Get closer to the women that will feel you and are right for you to fvck and/or date since ur filtering out the ones that don't like u
5) It might've not been meant to be. Rejection is God's Protection no matter how hot u think the girl is.
6) Get an acception down the line and will forget the rejection
I was desperately attracted to my oneitis, I was clearly afraid to approach her, even when she was stalking me around through my life (it was extreme). Everywhere where she appeared she would tell everyone how annoying it was that I was SO sincere when I dared to talk to her. She was obsessed with the company I worked for and used me to get a job (during the interview she mentioned my name as reference and of course I licked my bosses balls to give her a chance). Once hired she immidiately started to spread rumours about me with my collegues...the funniest thing is that she left the company by herself after two weeks or so.
She put insane efford to appear in my life over and over again in all kinds of places.
Every time when I was flirting with other chicks or simply not paying attention she would become so mad at me that the next day she looked asif she had a sleepless night.
Yes, my oneitis turned me into a sissy emo boy and Im disgusted by myself when I think of it. it lasted for three years, and has cost me some mental health, depression and more.
what was her motivation ? what drives chicks to do that ? need to feel loved or attention ? To finally get rid off her I humiliated her and then asked her out, result: very rude rejection. I still feel I missed something and that I could have done better, but fear of rejection was incredibly strong.
Oneitis is a horrible desease, especially if attraction is extremely strong. Im still recovering, despite of having a few sex partners afterwards.
DonJoseCantosie
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But yea man, i think it had something to do with validation. validation is so important to girls that they'd rather do that, than have sex...can u believe that? They'd pass up something that feels pleasurable(Feels good for days) for something that gives a temporary ego for what? A Day? Hahaha
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
- You also is the first person who is going to get invited to parties, because everybody knows that you are going to give your friends a good time because you are going to introduce them to many girls you meet later on that evening. ( you are not asking for a party,everybody else is inviting you)
And because you are the first who is approaching and leading your friends you are the alpha male automatically. ( Instead of being one of the AFC friends)