I've been seeing this woman (she's 4 years older than me) for a while now. We've mostly been at the friendship level, but lately I've been sensing she would like more out of it. I want to know how I should proceed in this kind of situation. I really do like her and enjoy the time we spend together, but I just don't want to mess things up.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Realtionship Question
- Thread starter DHertz
- Start date
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
MacAvoy
Banned
DHertz said:I really do like her and enjoy the time we spend together, but I just don't want to mess things up.
If you want to move out of the friends zone, stop acting like you don't want to mess things up. If you put her on a pedastool, she's going to be showing you the door. You have to treat her like you could care less if she was in your life.
Remember you are the catch. She has to earn your time and affection. You need to stop thinking of her as better than all the other girls you've been with. Start treating her like what she is, one fish out of 3,000,000,000.
Oh yea and go read the bible. Finally your not in a relationship. Your not even a blip on the radar yet. Honestly the most help that your going to get from this forum is the bible. I've been here 3 years and the help has come from the knowledge that I've gained from the bible. The situational advice received in posts has been useless compared to what I've learned from the bible.
I'm 25 and she's 29.Latinoman said:How old are you and how old is she?
Thanks for the advice MacAvoy. I haven't put her on a pedestal yet and I won't be doing so anytime soon.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Kings_royalty
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 7, 2006
- Messages
- 343
- Reaction score
- 0
I've been seeing this woman (she's 4 years older than me) for a while now. We've mostly been at the friendship level, but lately I've been sensing she would like more out of it
So make your move bro. MacAvoy has good advice, I would follow it if i were you.
So make your move bro. MacAvoy has good advice, I would follow it if i were you.
Hitman10000
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 29, 2006
- Messages
- 602
- Reaction score
- 9
To be honest, if you start hanging out with a girl one on one, there is a short window of opportunity that you can do anything.
Most outgoing girls will give you ONE "meeting" Most ingoing (introverted) girls will give you TWO "meetings" (When I say meetings, I mean hanging out one on one)
If you are rich/handsome +1 meetup. Girls are not acting cruel, YOU ARE especially if she's interested in you. I'm not talking about going on a date with someone at lunch time or studying. I'm talking about a real bonafide...Let's do something and then let's eat something and then let's get it on kinda date.
Before you make your move..I recommend that you "suddenly" become busy for the next 2-3 weeks. Then the next time you meet her, then you make the move. Cause if you make the move after hanging out with her for several weeks without doing something and then you decide on doing something..she thinks you're up to no good. She cannot trust you because you do not trust your own masculinity.
Most outgoing girls will give you ONE "meeting" Most ingoing (introverted) girls will give you TWO "meetings" (When I say meetings, I mean hanging out one on one)
If you are rich/handsome +1 meetup. Girls are not acting cruel, YOU ARE especially if she's interested in you. I'm not talking about going on a date with someone at lunch time or studying. I'm talking about a real bonafide...Let's do something and then let's eat something and then let's get it on kinda date.
Before you make your move..I recommend that you "suddenly" become busy for the next 2-3 weeks. Then the next time you meet her, then you make the move. Cause if you make the move after hanging out with her for several weeks without doing something and then you decide on doing something..she thinks you're up to no good. She cannot trust you because you do not trust your own masculinity.