You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
think thats just a general rule with peoples attention spans.Most people who are concentrated on a task don't like having their concentration broken.Willard said:Some woman who work out don't like to get hit on where they work out, the girl I went out with tonight told me she puts on her ipod and ignores everybody, and hates it when dudes try to talk to her. Feel her out maybe ask the whole group if they want to hang out after Crossfit sometime, that way you can get to know her without any pressure.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
first no matter how attractive a girl is don't put them on a pedestal. Most of the time it only validates their ego and not your ****.ududud said:She's incredible. Banging body, reallllly cute face. How do I pick her up?
I don't think he has one, so he's likely just gonna have to use game.MillionBillionaire said:You got to roll up in your Aston Martin.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Geeky boyfriend? how does he look?ududud said:Found out she's a liberal and worst of all has a geeky boyfriend who's not as good looking as me. She's too tall for me anyways almost 6 foot. Still would have no qualms about stealing get for sex but there's other hot chicks in crossfit. Better to go for them for some hot sex.
About 6 feet tall, average build, doesn't even workout much. Guys like that aren't supposed to get HB9s. He's an engineer. Whoopee.JaegerPilot217 said:Geeky boyfriend? how does he look?
She has a boyfriend. Too many issues including her distugsting liberalism take away the appeal. There's so many other hot babes to choose from in crossfit.skinnyguy said:if the girl is as hot as you say, she's probably getting banged by 9-10 men. You should show up with an equally hot chick, and all of a sudden she will show interest in you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
does he look in his 30's?ududud said:About 6 feet tall, average build, doesn't even workout much. Guys like that aren't supposed to get HB9s. He's an engineer. Whoopee.
She's a dark haired brunette but I'm usually luckier with blondes and there's hot blondes in crossfit and there more my ideal size about 5 foot 3.
now wtf is that supposed to mean? who IS supposed to have hb9 then? you are? nice attitude. :nono: if he's an engineer it is ok to think he is kinda smart and makes good money. maybe the girl likes intelligent guys.ududud said:About 6 feet tall, average build, doesn't even workout much. Guys like that aren't supposed to get HB9s. He's an engineer. Whoopee
She wouldn't say hi to me today, snotty btch, but smiled and chatted with others about her boyfriend. Other hot chicks said hi and my eyes are now on them. How the fuk is mentioning how hot she is as pedastalizing her? In this leftist liberal world were not allowed to comment on the looks of chick because it's not polticly correct? She's fantastic looking, but just fukable and dumpable. All she can get is the nice guy geek who everyone knows is at the bottom of the food chain. There's so many other fish in the pond and many of the fish are just as hot and not insanely tall. She's like a foot taller than some of the chicks and of she wears heels she'd be freaking amazon, 5 foot 3 and 6 foot is the ideal height for a chick.CrimsonPanther said:now wtf is that supposed to mean? who IS supposed to have hb9 then? you are? nice attitude. :nono: if he's an engineer it is ok to think he is kinda smart and makes good money. maybe the girl likes intelligent guys.
fact is, he has the girl and you don't. i like how guys with muscles think girls should love muscles, guys with big wieners say girls should love that, guys with money want girls who love wealthy men, and ugly guys want girls not to be so "shallow"
this girl isn't for you anyway from what you wrote. you already begin to pedestalize her even though you tried to belittle her to convince yourself you didn't like her anyway.
late 20s overweight, shes late 20s too, pair of losers. her hotness is all that's going for her. She was talking politics again and damn is she dumb. Homosexual marriage and the slaughter of unborn children by abortion, she said she won't vote for somebody not for those. she should shut her trap. Women being allowed to vote mistake?JaegerPilot217 said:does he look in his 30's?