"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Just signed up on this site although I was on here years ago. Hoping someone can help me.

I've been talking with this girl I met online for the past 2 weeks, we finally met up on Thursday and everything was great a lot of contact while watching the hockey game with her, so we started making out at my place and kind of left it at that. The only problem was during most of the time she was constantly on her blackberry on stupid bbm saying how this one old guy wont leave her alone and **** but she keeps messaging him back. (only downside to the date, everything else was perfect)

Now I really dont know how to proceed and its driving me crazy, Im really great at talking with girl and getting in there with a date but its always what comes after the 1st date that trips me up. Any suggestions on how to proceed? We are still talking and joking around for the most part.

We have a lot in common and would really like for this to work into a relationship.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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luckylukec said:
We have a lot in common and would really like for this to work into a relationship.
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Stop this line of thinking right now and read this great thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180108

Just be a cool, relaxed guy and don't put TOO much stock into this possible attention-wh0re. You're already getting ahead of yourself after one date by even mentioning the word 'relationship'.
 
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Thanks for the advice and that article! Would you comment on the bbm stuff while hanging with her or just blow it off like it doesnt bother you?
 
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Why do guys want to get into relationships so quickly?

Has the OP ever been in a serious LTR?
 
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Outsider said:
Why do guys want to get into relationships so quickly?
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Its not so much wanting to be in a relationship with her so let me rephrase that, I would like to get closer with her, not looking for marriage or anything crazy. Im not wanting to start a relationship with her tomorrow or anything.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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that's the growing trend in this place, they just wanna get into a "relationship" with a chic. don juans my as5.

anyway, now you're just backtracking, you do want a relationship with her. let her do that, wonder how to get YOU into a relationship.
 
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Phew! I was gonna say this guy is beyond help if that's what he's looking for.
 
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Yeah I think the article the first don Juan posted was spot on, let her do the relationship work and just worry about getting laid, because ultimately that will give her the feelings.
 
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