"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Just signed up on this site although I was on here years ago. Hoping someone can help me.

I've been talking with this girl I met online for the past 2 weeks, we finally met up on Thursday and everything was great a lot of contact while watching the hockey game with her, so we started making out at my place and kind of left it at that. The only problem was during most of the time she was constantly on her blackberry on stupid bbm saying how this one old guy wont leave her alone and **** but she keeps messaging him back. (only downside to the date, everything else was perfect)

Now I really dont know how to proceed and its driving me crazy, Im really great at talking with girl and getting in there with a date but its always what comes after the 1st date that trips me up. Any suggestions on how to proceed? We are still talking and joking around for the most part.

We have a lot in common and would really like for this to work into a relationship.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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luckylukec said:
We have a lot in common and would really like for this to work into a relationship.
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Stop this line of thinking right now and read this great thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=180108

Just be a cool, relaxed guy and don't put TOO much stock into this possible attention-wh0re. You're already getting ahead of yourself after one date by even mentioning the word 'relationship'.
 
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Thanks for the advice and that article! Would you comment on the bbm stuff while hanging with her or just blow it off like it doesnt bother you?
 
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Why do guys want to get into relationships so quickly?

Has the OP ever been in a serious LTR?
 
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Outsider said:
Why do guys want to get into relationships so quickly?
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Its not so much wanting to be in a relationship with her so let me rephrase that, I would like to get closer with her, not looking for marriage or anything crazy. Im not wanting to start a relationship with her tomorrow or anything.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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that's the growing trend in this place, they just wanna get into a "relationship" with a chic. don juans my as5.

anyway, now you're just backtracking, you do want a relationship with her. let her do that, wonder how to get YOU into a relationship.
 
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Phew! I was gonna say this guy is beyond help if that's what he's looking for.
 
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Yeah I think the article the first don Juan posted was spot on, let her do the relationship work and just worry about getting laid, because ultimately that will give her the feelings.
 
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